I was crossing Bossip.com when I came across this post Why Do Black Women Hate On Each Other, Essence Magazine did a article about this topic read below.
“When people learned that we wanted to photograph Iman, Taraji P. Henson and Serena Williams for our April cover, the comments started immediately. “Oh, they’ll never get along” was the refrain most often heard. It was as if the notion that three beautiful and accomplished Black women might come together for a joint cover shoot was just too outrageous to entertain.
Yet the murmurs weren’t totally without precedent. After all, Black women’s relationships with one another have often been fraught with tension. Truth is, we are sometimes our own worst enemy. Wall Street executive Carla A. Harris told us recently she had noticed that in the workplace Black women are sometimes the ones derailing other sisters. Certainly we’ve been guilty of tearing each other down in our personal relationships as well, even fighting over a sorry man who tried to play us against each other. But with all the challenges facing us, it’s more important than ever that we as Black women make a conscious decision to support, love and affirm one another at work, in our communities, in our churches and in our organizations. It’s time for us to wake up to the fact that our problem isn’t between us; it’s with all the forces that teach us to undermine one another instead of pulling together to strengthen us all. Whatever happened to lifting each other as we climb?
Now, I’m not saying we’re all going to get along all the time, but if we can cherish and accept our sisters as we would want to be cherished and accepted, we will go a long way in setting a new tone in our often-fractured relationships. If we can stop the sideways glancing when one of us walks into a room, if we can stop the head-to-toe assessment of others in the club, if we can stop calling people out behind their backs-while smiling in their faces-if we can put an end to all that, we can start to reclaim the spirit of our sisterhood.
Let’s begin by greeting one another with open arms and minds and stop assuming that we’re out to get one another. The next time a sister you don’t know walks into a room, the next time a Black woman you’ve never met starts working at your job, go out of your way to introduce yourself and give her a compliment. You just may make a loyal new friend.”
Now my take on this, firstly I hate that Bossip always puts a color on a topic. Women in general have this problem, and let me say how I feel; women are like cats—very sneaky and un-trust worthy. I won’t put a color on it because in my eyes it’s women in general. This goes all the way back to the bible, women have always been out for themselves. Why is this, I think it’s in some women nature or the way they were raised? I do think that some women are genuine–but for the most part you cannot trust them. I do feel like we have a lot of unnecessary hate between women–and that goes beyond tearing down looks. I read in the article about a brother pitting two sister against each other. But in my eyes he is only doing what he is allowed to do, when will we learn that we as women have the power in the world? If a man that is married comes sniffing your way–just because you don’t know his wife doesn’t give you the right to lay down with a married men. When will we as women see that these men are only doing what they know they can do, and that’s have there cake and eat it to.
Men are not as dumb as we want to think, they know how to pimp out the game and yes I think we should stand as one. But isn’t standing as one means, not lying with someone else’s man? Not tearing down someone else, not under minding someone to get what you want? I think women in general are brain washed and believe that they have to look out for themselves and they can care less who they step on getting there. And white women do it, Asian women etc, this in the nature of most women, unless your raised better and it will not change. It is what it is—-nothing can be done about it—the brain washing has already taken place.
