After writing about Terricka I thought why do we as women be so hard up for a man that we make the dumbest choices. Now personally I mad a bad choice for a man, but I was sixteen and didn’t know any better so I just have to charge that one to the game. But there’s no way as a grown woman with common sense will I make the same mistake twice. It’s like we so desperate to be married or have a man in our lives that we could careless if he’s no good. I can’t even believe how many old fools I know of it seem like once you get over 25 you should start seeing the light but I know a few women in there forties that’s playing sideline roles. Its like are you serious I thought the older you get the wiser you get but II guess not.
I know that maybe that woman might have had a bad marriage and just doesn’t care about being a sideline woman. But I know I’m better than that, and I have no problems with women who don’t mind letting a man have his cake and eating it to. That’s there business but it makes me curious how woman feel like they can’t be complete without a man. Even on Ray J’s show his bust-it-baby said she needs a man to feel complete. So it’s like why is that, the only man you need to feel complete is God and he make you feel whole and never let you down.
It’s no different than Chilli kicking it with Larry Johnson knowing he’s been arrested for domestic violence at least three times I know of. What thought process is there? Like for real your just getting involved with a man who has been said to have herpes and known to beat a bish down. Is she Desperately Seeking A Man like for real you should have kept Usher. I’m just saying I ain’t the one to be telling people what to do but hey that’s HOW I FEEL.
And not only Chilli it’s women who know that man is no good for them but gets involved with him and then when it goes bad. We then scream nigga’s ain’t shyt and blast all black men from here to hire water. But the truth of the matter is, the only person you can blame is the woman in the mirror. Men do this as well by over looking good women for loose strippers and Pretty Women.. I guess it’s life I just wanted to write about it.
Do you think woman are Desperately Seeking A Man?
babydoll
Comment made on April 22, 2009 @ 11:50 am
I think women always think they are different than the next woman. That “He won’t treat ME like that.” mentality and it’s a damn shame. I use halle berry and Kim K as examples. These are women that have been cheated on multiple times, and they are (to men) the most sought after pieces of ass. But have you heard and read their stories, they are just like every other female out there. So, women need to understand your p*ssy ain’t the best, there is always someone prettier and dumber than you. If the n*gga ain’t no good, he just ain’t no good. I honestly don’t think women will ever get out of that “I can change him into a better man.” stage It’s like in most womens DNA…so this is why no good n*ggas will ALWAYS thrive. smh
Nichelle
Comment made on April 22, 2009 @ 12:02 pm
babydoll you are so right I did a post some time ago about changing a man, and I wanted to make it clear that you can not change a man. My sister wanted to pass up on this nice guy because he was lame and dressed nerdy but he was a good man, so I’m like girl you can take him to TJ Max or AJ Wright when he gets paid and pick out some new cloths for him, send him to out cousin for a new hair cut and bam he got swag. But one thing you can’t change is a man attitude and his ways. If he’s a dog he’s a dog and nothing in you can change that. He will have to want to change and he will only change when he gets ready to period. But I was letting her know shyt you can by cloths and change up how a dude appearance is, but if he clean with a fresh pair of Yeezy and rolling in a bmw but treats you like shyt what’s the point? Your not and will not get him to see his ways, he wont until he’s ready to. Just because a dude ain’t rolling like the next or dressing like the next if he treating you like a queen shit everything else can be negotiate you feel me.
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Comment made on April 23, 2009 @ 1:32 am
An interesting read – some good tips here
babydoll
Comment made on April 23, 2009 @ 9:07 am
Very true Nichelle, i want a good boy too, I am too through with bad asses,thats young sh*t.
I remember that post too, it was one of the first ones I read I think, good stuff!
Nichelle
Comment made on April 23, 2009 @ 9:32 am
Thanks, it sad because it hard out there for a pimp