I’m A Married Man Now

I was listening to my H-Town CD over the weekend and I was listening to the words of the song that’s playing “Married Man.” It made me think about how people don’t transition well from the single life to being a married man or woman. I believe that changes have to be made, I don’t think you can have the same thought process or ways once you say I do. I defiantly don’t think things should change for the worse. However your mentality has to change. You can not be the same because you have a responsibility now.

If you are a club head that all has to stop once you get married. I’m not saying that you can’t go out but you have to be respectable to your spouse. I feel like we all need time apart from our spouse to miss them and to breath. But as a single man or woman you were free to go and party at the clubs when you wanted to. When you get married you make a commitment to forsake others. Putting yourself in elements that can lead to trouble is not a smart choice in my book. I think when you do things like this there’s a strong chance you will fall for the temptations that’s out there. Then you know how the story goes, a number leads to a phone conversation, that leads to a date and then you’re in someone’s bed wondering how you got there.

I don’t feel like your life is over once you get married, of course you have friends and it’s nothing wrong with going to hang out with the fella’s. However we all know our friends and most of the time we know what they are into. And if you’re married then you need to limit your hanging out time with a bad seed.

Yes it was cool to club hop with your girl Thursday through Friday. It was fun hanging out with the fella’s getting numbers at the strip club Tuesday through Sunday but now you have a spouse and it’s different. You have to look at your married life as a new beginning. So I think you need to limit the time you go out to maybe once every other week and spend the time building your family. If you don’t change I feel like you’re entering that marriage with the wrong attitude and it might not work out.

Remember change is good, embrace it and learn how to make it work for you. I think a lot of people cheat and what not because in there mind they can still do what they want to do, there still being selfish. A lot will change once you become one with your spouse, even down to your spending habits. Accept that it is a part of life and if your friends don’t understand that then maybe it’s time for a new set of friends.

What do you feel do you think you should change your ways when you get married?

Married Man – H-town