Hey Young Girl Did You Know Perception Is Everything

Okay, I was having a chat last night and I was told that I women and men bash all the time. Now of course I know I educate the brothers every now and then. Even though some call it man bashing I call it ~~ class 101~~~ I feel like why is it when you disagree on something you are called a hater? One thing about me is I can admit to my faults. If I did it~~ I will admit to it. Now here’s the thing, I was thinking about this all night because my girlfriends say the opposite about me. They say I women bash and uplift men like there King Tut and they deserves to be bowed down to. As far as women goes I’m a country girl, I moved to Chicago when I was ten I think. My entire family is from the country. I was raised a certain way and it was instilled in me that a woman should carry herself in a certain light.

It’s hard for me to break away from that because it’s just what I believe in. I have a daughter myself and I want her to grow up to be respectable young woman. But what happened to first impressions? Now me myself and I’m not claiming to be right~~ but I feel like the way you carry yourself as a man or a woman will determine how you will be judged. It’s just the way things are. When you go to a job interview, you have to carry yourself a certain way. You can’t walk in there with pink hair, heavy makeup and ghetto attitude and think Corporate America is going to hire you. As soon as you step into their doors they’re sizing you up. I have been told by several people who are big wigs in Corporate America that they will not hire a man who comes in with an ear ring or if a woman has to much make up on, a short dress or her breast hanging out, they will not hire them.

“This does not mean these aren’t good clean women–who am I to judge. ”

Is this right, NO, absolutely not but it’s real. People judge you on the impression you give them. Now to be honest I believe that first impression means everything, when you met a person I believe that’s who they are.  If a guy comes at me whistling or hollering hey baby, I keep it moving. I will not stop for a dude yelling hey ma to me—it’s disrespectful period. I feel like when you’re in a lady presence you need to know how to approach her. Jay-Z already schooled you ninja’s on Excuse Me Miss; I guess you guys weren’t taking notes.

“Everybody wants to be a video girl, but is it really all that great?’

“This does not mean these dude are gay they might be best friends and doing a group hug”

“Just because she posted something like this on her Myspace page doesn’t mean she’s a free spirit, she might be advertising a product”

“This doesn’t means she loose, she’s just dancing so what her mommy can see this. Who cares.”

Remember young girls what you do now will effect you later and don’t let anyone tell you different, we are more than our bodies…