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Keys: Irv GottiMay62009
Gossip Bite: Irv Gotti Is A Asshole
Written by Nichelle at 9:43 am
I ran across this video of Irv Gotti telling MTV that nobody is going to want his wife, “She’s pretty and all but she comes with three kids and no young dude with money is going to want her.” That’s the thing about a ninja they’ll suck all your young years dry and than run off to Susie Q down the street who is half your age. I remember not to long ago in my relationship with my kid’s father, he told me that I would not find another man daily. “Nobody’s going to want you you’re washed up” he would tell me this almost everyday because we argued everyday. He would always let me know how easy it will be for him to go find another woman because he is a man. “You’re OTG” which mean out the game, “you have two kids a man doesn’t want to take care of his own kids let alone another man’s kids.” He would gloat and tell me I would be alone and the only thing a man would do with me was have sex. “That’s all they’ll do is smash and leave, that’s why I ain’t worried about you leaving.” I let my self esteem get so low because I believed every word of it, I didn’t want to be alone or played out, I saw women around me getting played by men and I thought that was going to be me. I let myself get so lost in that relationship because he was all I knew, I gotten into a relationship with him while in high school and he was a grown man. From the beginning he played me but I was too blind to see it.
The thing is, I started having a problem with believing him, he was cheating on me with a married woman with three kids, but he always wanted to tell me I couldn’t find anybody else. I got so tired and stressed about the situation I became numb and didn’t want a man anymore. I started firing back at him like “Ninja please you sleeping with a woman who has three kids and you treat her better than me so whatever.” When he saw he couldn’t break me down any lower than I already was it got worse. I told him he is not the one who has control over my life and whatever God has for me I will have it. So with this being said never let anyone break you down to the point where your believing they know what your life will be. God don’t like ugly and he can bless you with a beautiful relationship while he makes the other person suffer. I look at Kimora a woman with two kids and was married to a man who was lager than Irv and she was able to move on and find happiness and get re-married. So if it’s written for you, you will have it and the only person that can stop your blessing is you.
I hope Deb finds the strength that she needs, sitting back and watching the man you gave everything to talk so nonchalant like whatever has to be hurtful. Deb did a interview with Vibe last year I’m posting it..
VIBE: When you first met Irv, was there anyone warning you not to be together?No one said anything negative, but there was always someone telling me they saw Irv at a club with this girl, talking to that girl…
Were you calm about it?
Calm? [Laughs] Back in the day in the beginning when Irv first got in the industry it was crazy!! I would be the ride or die chick that would go up to the office causing a scene. I used to fight in public–but now I have grown.
Yet how long have you been together?
Since high school, 14 or 15 years.
Was there ever at time you felt I want my old Irv back?
Yes. When Murder became really successful he wasn’t around. I was like ‘Where is Irv, seriously where is he?’ Irv got lost in the business and my children and I hardly saw him. I was like ‘damn’.
What do you say to people who give you advice on your relationship?
People are real quick to tell you what you should and shouldn’t do. Meanwhile their own situations are wreck and they don’t leave. I knew people whose husband’s was out there too, trying figure out why are they telling me to what I should do?
When did you say to yourself, “Wake up, Deb!”?
The show actually had me sitting looking at myself and seeing how I was really living. I’m watching myself on TV, trying to figure out, What am I doing?
Did you have any hesitations doing the show?
Yes, that everyone is going to know my family business, and we can’t hide it anymore. Originally, Irv told me the show would focus heavily on his work in the studio with Ja but once taping started the family became more of interest. At first I was totally against it because everyone was going to see his craziness and look at me funny. People would think I was crazy.
Can you handle the focus on family?
I’m fine with it. We did our couch talks, which Irv and I would have very intimate conversations. It’s interesting because my view and Irv’s view on relationships are totally different. He thinks relationships don’t work, I believe they can. We constantly butt heads.
Relationships in general?
Irv tends to think relationships in general don’t work. He believes having a regular nine to five can be stressful enough on a relationship, but having a relationship in the industry is impossible. I think it may be hard with all the temptation but not impossible.
Did Irv’s upbringing affect his view on relationships?
Crazy thing is Irv was brought up in a loving family of eight, his parents have been together for 50 something years. Irv is the way he is because of the business – he got in the business and just lost his mind.
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Hey, there! I will not be watchong this shit. Lmao
girl it was really good but he is such a ass hole. and hows it going I see you change your name back.
I watched this show, and I couldn’t BELIEVE my eyes!! I think this is the realist reality show out there honestly. How many pseudo-celebs do u see that have their own show actually cheat on there wives ON TV???? That is some disrespectful shit. You can tell she feels so stuck, and he is mentally and emotionally abusive to her on the show which was mind-blowing to see!
He got this woman really thinking she can do no better than his trifling ass. Every woman should see this show! A hot stankin mess!!!!! We gotta do better…
With that being said, I can’t wait to watch this season lol….
Tell me about it, and I can feel her pain. I had low self esteem when I was with my kids father. He would tell me daily how I wasn’t going to find another man because I had two kids. And how I wasn’t good in the bed, when men use to talk to me are tell me I’m pretty he would always tell me, they didn’t man that, that they was only saying that because they wanted to sleep with me. I use to just be depressed because I believed him, I didn’t know anything about sex I had been with him from 16 so I was clueless. It wore me down and I just settled because I believe all his negativity. He would always tell me I was not a good woman and didn’t know how to be one and I would not make a man happy. But he didn’t think I would come to a point where I just didn’t care if I was single. I just through my hands up and told myself I rather be old and alone than to keep putting up with this mess so I slowly got enough courage to say fluck it so when he would start with me and try to manipulate me yelling about nobody going to want me. Instead of crying I started smiling and saying thank you Jesus cuz I didn’t want another man that I wanted to be alone. I would let him know I’m okay with being by myself and raising my kids. It didn’t and still doesn’t matter if I end up by myself because I rather have peace of mind. Than to be a mans fool ever again, it was a long journey and I’m still traveling so I hope Deb find’s the strength that she needs to get rid of him. Because it’s hard going back out there with kids so I feel her. But she has to realize that she’d be much better off without him.
Oh Nichelle, as a follow survivor or emotional, physical and mental abuse, I am so proud of you and applaud you. Because people do not how hard it is until u have been through it. I used to talk about abuse victims and how weak they are, not even knowing I was in one my damn self!
I literally prayed my way out of that situation, I mean the bible everyday until I finished it, and midway through is when I FINALLY had the strength to leave him and not have a complete breakdown. I was in NY by myself and I thought he was all I had so I couldn’t leave. But I did it and I am still experiencing the ramifications from it, I have a huge fear of intimacy. But the good things that I got from it is I take NO mess, when I found out my recent ex was cheating, no arguring, I was out. I didn’t think he was worth the trouble. I don’t waste a lot of energy/time anymore. It was 2 years ago but I still have a looooong way to go to be my 100% confident self again. But I thank God I that I can get to that place you got to too, where I just rather be alone and happy and sane than with someone and want to die everyday- real talk.
Yeah i watched the first season. i dont like him..
yeah he a bastard
@babydoll
Man I feel you and I’m glad that you were able to pull away because people do always say what not going to be them. I did it but once you walk a mile in them shoes you understand how easy it is to loose yourself. How you don’t believe the man that says he loves you so much wouldn’t beat on you like that. How you fool yourself into believing it will change over and over again. I was so embarrassed about it for a long time, but I talk about it now so I can heal from it. I speak on it because I know it’s so many more women who were like us are going through it. Silence is so deadly and I refuse to let it kill me anymore than it already has. I’m not ashamed to say I’m going threw counseling because I need it; I have so much negativity within me towards men, towards myself. I’m trying to let it all go but it’s always easier said than done. Some days I feel so disappointed with myself for letting myself get into that space. To let someone steal away my beliefs and joy, I can’t finger point. I was just as wrong for sticking around all my young years with him. It’s a long road to recovery but I ain’t looking back and I am trying to stop living with regret. I’m glad you’re speaking up and soon your wombs will heal and we’ll be so much wiser. I know how it feels to be at your lowest point, and I believe once you hit the bottom the only way you can go is up. Shyt the soundtrack of my life has been ruff, all I could remember was when Mary dropped The Breakthrough and I would listen to it everyday. I’m so glad she progressed in life because that album helped me find the strength that I needed. I was so into listening to her My Life cd and screaming I’m the only woman you need and forgiving. When she made the breakthrough and help me see being loved differently. Like you can’t hold a good woman down, take me as I am, enough crying, I can’t do this alone, I mean that whole album helped me see things they way I should had always seen them. When she said a love that’s tearing you down ain’t really love. That was it for me, but anyhow it’s a long hall and we still have a long way to travel but God will never put more on us than we can bear.
Yes, we ain’t dead yet! Its an amazing thing when you can hear or read a very simple statement” When she said a love that’s tearing you down ain’t really love.” and then everything just CLICKS and you are so done, you wonder why you hadn’t left a long time ago.
I think the biggest hurdle is forgiving yourself. That has been my biggest issue so far. Like, I know i was wrong sticking around for sticking around. I had no business being in a SERIOUS relationship when i was 18 and I am emotionally stuggling because of what I went through. Shit is real. But it is okay!
Brava on seeking counseling, I was thinking that I should too, still up in the air about it though.
I am glad I am not alone in this experience….
No your not and I was 18 to when I started out so I’m glad that you smarten up quicker than me. I tell myself that all the time I was to young to be loving a grown man he was 22 and was 18 my mother fought me but at the end I didn’t listen to her but boy did I wish I had. and I think you should go at least once…
Nichelle I am proud of you.I will be tuning in as well . I love this show because of all thing it does not look scripted. real life- real issues. I hope deb take it upon herself to move on without gotti.
Nice site.
i like this show alot because it’s real and it’s everyday life that ppl go thru…but in order to cut the ties and her feelings u gotta stop fuckin her and let it be done..my ex wife usta act the same way that last fuck up problem we had was a wrap when i stop fuckin her and stop coming around she moved on…he tho he don’t wannab with her he needs to stop coming around just pick the kids up and leave.
Thanks pprez and jailhouse news I’m glad u stopped by and I agree he should but truth be told he don’t want her with another man