I wrote about making it last forever and I thought to myself do people really want to know of there mate has cheated on them. Yeah it kills you and drives you mad, you see the phone lying around and just can’t help yourself. Your spouse starts to act funny so now you put on your private eye hat. But do you really want to know? The old saying goes, when you look for something you will find it. So what happens when you find out, 90% of the time people stay to work things out so was it worth it getting yourself upset?
I don’t know I’m kind of torn on this issue, for health reason I would want to know if my man was sleeping with another chick. After a man sleeps with the same chick a few times he starts to raw dawg her. This is how all these diseases get passed, these ninja’s be thinking these side women are sitting around waiting on them when 90% of the time when he’s not there she’s flucking somebody else. So part of me says yes I want to know if he’s creeping on the low so I can do what I have to do. But the other part say’s I rather not know what happen the less the better. However can you truly be happy with a person without finding out the truth?
Personally I feel like if it was a one time thing and you promised yourself you would never do it again then don’t tell me. But if you’re holding a outside relationship with another woman then yes I want to know, that brings in so much drama and stress. This other woman feels like she is your woman to after a while, you have to take care of two homes and that’s not fair to your lady or man. So I would say keep it to yourself if it was a onetime thing but a affair yes I want to know
Would you want to know if your partner cheated?
hypothetically - lyfe jennings
nicole
Comment made on May 13, 2009 @ 3:23 pm
its a personally choice theres no right or wrong answer you know what you can deal with how much truth you can bear people say that lieing is bad and to some point i do agree but at some point and time people stray the queston to ask yourself was this a one time thing or are you considering having this other person in you life full time if it was a mistake a oh hell what was i thinking moment and lets be honest we all have had them then keep it to yourself no sense in messing up your household cause you f*cked up but if this other person is someone you want to start something with by all means tell cause in the end its going to come out anyway and thats when the drama starts i dont know would i want to know it depends…..
babydoll
Comment made on May 13, 2009 @ 4:25 pm
I am gonna try to stay away from this one Nichelle- lol
babydoll
Comment made on May 13, 2009 @ 4:27 pm
Actually naw I will comment, If he cheated and it wasn’t nothing serious, meaning he didn’t see the chick again, he felt horrible and wouldn’t do it again- that shit should b a secret. BUT if he is a CHEATER that needs to come to light, because at that point he is risking your emotional, physical and mental health. Not cool. And it needs to be that womans choice if she wants to stay or not….
Nichelle Walker
Comment made on May 13, 2009 @ 6:32 pm
I agree with the both of you
pprez
Comment made on May 13, 2009 @ 7:21 pm
hell yess!!!
Nichelle
Comment made on May 13, 2009 @ 7:29 pm
even if it was one time only
Ambiance2000
Comment made on May 16, 2009 @ 10:47 am
No, bcz anything done in the dark WILL come to light!! Believe that.
nicolefromphilly
Comment made on December 17, 2009 @ 7:51 am
Hey!
I disagree Most time when a man goes out of the relationship/marriage and cheat it is a problem because the person he cheats with could become a potential problem.,
and bring it to your door. Why? Men are sloppy.
Most the time the woman he is cheating with at the momment will eventually have feeling because when a woman have intimacy with a man she is giving up a part of herself (it emotionally) she will try and play it off as it doesn’t mean anything to keep him coming back but eventually her true self will come out. (especially if the sex is good then it is a wrap!) believe that.
Another thing “He” may tell you that it was a one time thing but get that other woman mad she is going to tell you (How long it has really been going on)
There is no such thing as I cheated one time. If he feels he can get away with it “once” he will cont’d until he get busted