MassMedia Chick: How Jada Keeps It Fresh

Jada is promoting her new show Hawthornes where she plays a nurse the wonderful Misses Smith has been kicking up the interviews. I always love Jada she a natural beauty. She kicked it with Red Book and shared her secret how she keeps Big Willy happy and her secret to keeping her marriage together.

Surprises are important, aren’t they?
That’s part of the reason we’ve been able to be together the way that we are for so long. We’re constantly surprising each other. In relationships you have to be elastic. If I say “black,” Will says “white.” That’s just how we work. No matter what side of the scale one is on, the other will switch to keep the balance. We crack up about it all the time. We hardly ever agree on anything, and we’ve learned to really respect that in our relationship. You might have an idea in your mind of what a marriage is supposed to be, and you’re driving, driving, driving toward this ideal picture. But you have to be open to the fact that your relationship is meant to be something else.

After 11 years of marriage, any tips for keeping a relationship hot?
Nice outfits and high heels! And talking. And making time. You’ve got to make time. Our men want to feel important. We want to feel important. So it’s about establishing an environment in which that can happen. It can be hard because we get caught in the grind of life. Establish relationships with family members or friends and take turns with each other’s kids so you can make that time for yourselves. It doesn’t take a lot of money — wallets are tight right now — so just simple stuff. A night walk? Man, do I love those. Or pack a lunch and go to the park, like Will and I did. Even a drive — and then pull over on the side of the road! Think of places outside that are comfortable to have sex. Does he have access to his office? Have a fantasy date. Be his secretary! Be sneaky. Your girlfriend’s house at a party. The bathroom! A guest bedroom! Just switch it up. Anything like that can keep it going. Anything it takes to keep the flame alive.

How do you keep that connection?
Talk. Or the other day, because I’ve been working a lot, I said to Will, “Be ready at 2:30.” He said, “Where are we going?” I said, “Don’t worry about it.” I try to make Sunday a day to reconnect — with friends, family, husband. So I put together a picnic basket and drove us to this hiking trail that I’d taken him to when we first met. No Secret Service, nothing. I got the idea because that morning he’d been reading a book on architecture, and he told me that it said the only replenishment for the soul is nature. Now, I’ve always known that’s true for me, but for a dude to say “nature,” I’m like, “Wow!” I said to myself, I’m going to take him on that hike. So we went up and had a really nice afternoon. We were there for about an hour, just sitting on a bench overlooking the canyons. I’m getting teary just thinking about it. We were both replenished and so happy and connected in that one hour. It doesn’t take a lot of time. Once again, it’s just being aware and present enough to know what that other person wants. What does he want today?

Jada took to The View and said she is a Big freak lmao, loves her.