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Jan182010
Intuition Or Insecurity?
Written by Nichelle at 2:37 pm
I got this crazy feeling
I’m gone be single again
I know it, I can feel it
I know you gone mess up~~Keri HilsonThis is my favorite song off of In A Perfect World, the lyrics are so real I can feel them. I was listening to Intuition over the weekend and the song made me wonder is this really having an intuition or being insecure? I mean if you get into a new relationship should you be feeling this way? I do feel everyone should be given a fair chance but how do you beat this feeling of that person messing up like the last? Some men feel this way as well I think it’s only common for any gender to feel like this after being hurt. Men have the same trust issues we have as women; it’s a lot of dirty chicks in the world so I can’t point the finger one way.
I know for me this would be exactly how I would feel because I have trust issue now with men and don’t believe in them. It’s one of the main reasons I am skipping out on the relationship thing. Going into something new feeling like this is more of an insecurity thing and it’s not healthy for the relationship. I believe intuition kicks in once you have been with a person for a while and you know their movements and actions. It’s when everything starts to change and you get that gut feeling that something is not right but you can’t place your finger on it.
Your intuition is usually right on the money, I can recall a time I knew something was up but I couldn’t find any evidence. I won’t lie if I need to be, I will turn into inspector gadget. Long story short I knew my ex had a separate phone but I couldn’t find it; well one day I stumble across it on the whelm of it. He asked me to get his car charger and he had two different ones plugged up I knew it was somewhere close. I tore up his car and found it under his floor mat, I didn’t say anything to him I got the number and went and did my investigation. In the matter of 24 hours I had the phone bill printed and in my hand ready to kick it off. I got all I needed to know including his sidepiece home phone number and husbands name with her address. Yeah I told it all~~~~
Like I said most of the time your intuition is right, but you can’t mix that up with insecurities. Being insecure can take a toll over your state of mind, and can be a burden on a new relationship. Getting with someone and telling yourself “there gonna mess up, I know it” is really wrong. In fact the words we speak out of our mouths are very powerful and can actually come true. Speaking negative thoughts can sometimes hinder our blessings and keep us into ruts in our lives. I think until you’re over feeling like this maybe skipping out on committed relationship would be the best thing.
If you don’t believe in your relationship why should anybody else believe right?
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The problem is simply men don’t know who to be men and women don’t know how to be women. If they don’t know how to be the pure basics of themselves then how can they be something else?
What I mean is we as people go through stages throughout our lives mentally. We go through the infant stage, to the child stage, to the adolescent stage, to the young adult stage, to adult and etc. There are alot of people who’s growth got stunned at a stage so when physically their growing their mental didn’t catch up. As a result they act accordingly. It takes a real adult to really grasp the true concept of marriage because they have grown past thinking and acting like a buffoon and therefore acknowledges why marriage is important and cherishes it. They will only appreciate and see the beauty in marriage when they have seen marriage work and prospered in their early stages of their mental.
Alot of people have gone through tragic events in their life that have stunned their mental growth. They can’t conceptualize adult issues and ordeals because they have not pass that level yet or never. It really takes a real man and woman to withstand all a marriage contains because it is intense and forthgoing. It takes an adult to be not only responsible but to be secure with themselves and whole (not fragmented) because they are merging with each other to make one mind. That is one hellava thing to do and can you imagine a childlike or adolescent like do such a task?
I hope this isn’t confusing what I said but in a nutshell you can’t be a man doing a boy’s job or vice versa.
OMG I SO COSIGN YOU NICHELLE!!!
#COSIGNNNNNNNNNNN
BEING A MAN IS BEING A ADULT, A ADULT HAS A JOB AND PROVIDES, BOTTOM LINE!
i agree with you nichelle.
people keep defining what a man is and what a woman is.
no matter the opinion, at the end of the day whether he’s a king, president, homeless, a bum or a criminal…he’s a man. and same for women.
Very fitting on you to post the The Brokewives of Atlanta pic at the top! lmao
Back on topic: Some people dont get married for honest and truth & love anymore they get married for convienance, sad to say, so when its NO longer convienant for the other party that person bails out on the relationship or marriage. Its a sad state that were living in, very few people stick bye their mate while they down and out, alot of people have come accustom to having material things become more important then having LOVE in their life!
I agree Mizz Dalla’s that’s so sad
My cousin recommended this blog and she was totally right keep up the fantastic work!
Mizzdallas, With our economy and ppl losing their jobs we can look at our circle of friends and know who will still be married. When you marry for money and the money becomes limited the materialistic spouse will bounce like the check they wrote to keep the cable on. LOL. A wife is to support her husband, be his biggest cheerleader, pat him on the back and give him a “that a boy” every now and then. When my husband’s job cut his hours 2 yrs ago, he didn’t look for me to pick up the slack, he got a second job. For some marriage is “what are you going to do for me, vs what are we going to build together”. Too many ppl walk away from a marriage to easily. If you take counseling before marriage, shouldn’t you take it before a divorce? Too may ppl give up too quickly. So what if you have lived in a 3500 sq ft home for the past 10 yrs. and you can’t imagine downsizing to a 1500 sq ft home. A marriage is about compromise and accepting that things do change that you can’t conrol.
I am not really wonderful with English but I find this really easy to interpret.