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Jan202010
Once The Rain Starts Falling It’s Over
Written by Nichelle at 2:20 pm
Let rain come falling, fighting cat’s and dogs~~ H-Town
It’s broad casted worldwide, you’ve been warned over and over again, the clouds have turned dark grey and it’s even drizzling like crazy. But yet you still believe you can beat the storm, you know it’s dangerous but in your mind you have to get to where you are going. “What about all my things, my life how can I just leave it on the whelm? Although you know it’s a strong possibility that storm could wreck your life, you still believe you can make it. You call yourself being careful and proceeding with caution because you believe anything can be overcame. You really can’t go by what others are saying because nobody knows exactly what’s going to happen in this life but God. Honestly a part of you wants to show others that they were wrong and you were right. So you sacrifice everything including your own life and peace of mind just to prove others wrong.
Why?
Hanging on to forever can be a deadly disease that will eat you alive. In our minds we feel we gotta have it, our hearts and soul wants that notoriety. We want to win no matter what, in fact some of us want to win so bad that we loose ourselves in that one word forever.. But what is forever? Everybody has a different meaning and definition of what that word means to him or her. I once was hung up on finding forever I needed it; I didn’t want to be the one who heard I told you so. In my mind, I felt I started a relationship, had kids and planned to be married to this man I had to finish what I started. No matter what I needed to keep hanging on to forever at least the thought of it.
But life ain’t all peaches and cream like you see in the movies and fairy tales. In fact life is harsh and unfair at times and to be truthful the only forever you really need to seek is with God. The reality is once the rain starts falling down in your relationship there’s nothing you can do about it. Once the good is gone you have to move on, sitting back and hanging on to forever will only hurt you. If you see a storm coming there’s no need of thinking you can beat it, you have to run for cover and protect yourself. I mean yes it could by pass and blow over or maybe not, I believe you have to ask yourself is it really worth sticking around to find out. Each situation is different but for me, I should have been gone long ago. I saw the grey clouds I heard the weather man and even seen how dark it could get, but being stuck on forever made me believe there was hope when there wasn’t.
If the rain is falling down in your life take the time and think about is it worth the trouble to weather the storm, sometimes it is and sometimes it isn’t. Don’t sit around hanging on to the word forever, because is there really such a thing anyway? Beside while your hanging on to forever life is passing you by; I’ve learned that I rather hang on to my peace of mind instead of a silly word that everybody interprets differently.
Everyday we fuss and fight, we got to separate, see when the good is gone, we got to move on… H-Town
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The problem is simply men don’t know who to be men and women don’t know how to be women. If they don’t know how to be the pure basics of themselves then how can they be something else?
What I mean is we as people go through stages throughout our lives mentally. We go through the infant stage, to the child stage, to the adolescent stage, to the young adult stage, to adult and etc. There are alot of people who’s growth got stunned at a stage so when physically their growing their mental didn’t catch up. As a result they act accordingly. It takes a real adult to really grasp the true concept of marriage because they have grown past thinking and acting like a buffoon and therefore acknowledges why marriage is important and cherishes it. They will only appreciate and see the beauty in marriage when they have seen marriage work and prospered in their early stages of their mental.
Alot of people have gone through tragic events in their life that have stunned their mental growth. They can’t conceptualize adult issues and ordeals because they have not pass that level yet or never. It really takes a real man and woman to withstand all a marriage contains because it is intense and forthgoing. It takes an adult to be not only responsible but to be secure with themselves and whole (not fragmented) because they are merging with each other to make one mind. That is one hellava thing to do and can you imagine a childlike or adolescent like do such a task?
I hope this isn’t confusing what I said but in a nutshell you can’t be a man doing a boy’s job or vice versa.
OMG I SO COSIGN YOU NICHELLE!!!
#COSIGNNNNNNNNNNN
BEING A MAN IS BEING A ADULT, A ADULT HAS A JOB AND PROVIDES, BOTTOM LINE!
i agree with you nichelle.
people keep defining what a man is and what a woman is.
no matter the opinion, at the end of the day whether he’s a king, president, homeless, a bum or a criminal…he’s a man. and same for women.
Very fitting on you to post the The Brokewives of Atlanta pic at the top! lmao
Back on topic: Some people dont get married for honest and truth & love anymore they get married for convienance, sad to say, so when its NO longer convienant for the other party that person bails out on the relationship or marriage. Its a sad state that were living in, very few people stick bye their mate while they down and out, alot of people have come accustom to having material things become more important then having LOVE in their life!
I agree Mizz Dalla’s that’s so sad
My cousin recommended this blog and she was totally right keep up the fantastic work!
Mizzdallas, With our economy and ppl losing their jobs we can look at our circle of friends and know who will still be married. When you marry for money and the money becomes limited the materialistic spouse will bounce like the check they wrote to keep the cable on. LOL. A wife is to support her husband, be his biggest cheerleader, pat him on the back and give him a “that a boy” every now and then. When my husband’s job cut his hours 2 yrs ago, he didn’t look for me to pick up the slack, he got a second job. For some marriage is “what are you going to do for me, vs what are we going to build together”. Too many ppl walk away from a marriage to easily. If you take counseling before marriage, shouldn’t you take it before a divorce? Too may ppl give up too quickly. So what if you have lived in a 3500 sq ft home for the past 10 yrs. and you can’t imagine downsizing to a 1500 sq ft home. A marriage is about compromise and accepting that things do change that you can’t conrol.