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Feb222010
Do We Stop People Growth Because Of There Past?
Written by Nichelle at 2:50 pm
I was searching the web and I ran across this post of Melyssa Ford talking about the Census. Melyssa has made it clear that she wants to be taken seriously now. She no longer wants to be considered a video girl but looked at as a woman who’s changed her ways. After I saw every blog that posted something about Ms Ford used this picture of her; it made me think will this lady ever be taken seriously? I mean is it fair to her that she’s not able to grow because of her career choices?
I say yes and no, I say yes because she made her bed and now she has to lie in it. In life once you make your bed you have to find a way to lay in it the best you can. Nobody forced Ms Ford to be a video vixen; in fact in her hay day where she was the top dog she loved what she did. But now when she sees she pigeon hole herself into this stereotype now she wants out. Life doesn’t work like that, no matter what you feel is right or wrong the next person will see it differently. I always say “Live for today but walk for tomorrow” yes live your life like today is your last but make sure you are walking for tomorrow. Of course tomorrow is not promised however it may come and you don’t want to do something today that you will regret tomorrow. Once you’re dead and gone your name will still live own through your legacy your building now.
On the other hand I do feel we’ve all made mistakes and should be able to grow and learn. I do feel we should let people change and be great and become who they are trying to be in life. Isn’t it just a catch twenty-two, you can’t erase your past like it never happened. I think you have to learn how to embrace your mistakes and the choices you’ve made. After the damage is done you have to deal with the after math the best you can and make the best out of the situation you’ve created for yourself. It may not be easy, it may not be fair; but it’s life. Once you move forward with better choices I think people will eventually see that and embrace the new you. But you can’t be mad about the choices you made.
Also I feel you should keep it real about how you truly feel to help someone who may not be quiet sure about making your same mistakes. When we lie about never having regrets or saying “it’s cool I don’t even care” when you know you care, when you know if you could do it all over again you will do things differently please share that.
At the Belvedere Lounge in Miami for Superbowl, Melyssa Ford discusses her role in “Good Hair,” and reveals details about her upcoming play that she’s been working on for the past year. “When I saw Jim Jones play I was really inspired by it… and so that night I had to meet the director/writer/producer of the play… and we created a theatrical experience based on my life for the last 10 years in the industry, and it’s called “For Vixens Who Have Considered Homicide When the Video Became Too Much.”
Melyssa confesses that she’ll be singing and dancing in her upcoming play and then drops details about the reality show she has with Elise Neal and Claudia Jordan. “51 Minds bought the show, so did VH1. We shot the pilot, myself Elise Neal and Claudia Jordan. I just saw a cut of the first episode and I was blown away… it wasn’t even mastered and it looked amazing.”
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The problem is simply men don’t know who to be men and women don’t know how to be women. If they don’t know how to be the pure basics of themselves then how can they be something else?
What I mean is we as people go through stages throughout our lives mentally. We go through the infant stage, to the child stage, to the adolescent stage, to the young adult stage, to adult and etc. There are alot of people who’s growth got stunned at a stage so when physically their growing their mental didn’t catch up. As a result they act accordingly. It takes a real adult to really grasp the true concept of marriage because they have grown past thinking and acting like a buffoon and therefore acknowledges why marriage is important and cherishes it. They will only appreciate and see the beauty in marriage when they have seen marriage work and prospered in their early stages of their mental.
Alot of people have gone through tragic events in their life that have stunned their mental growth. They can’t conceptualize adult issues and ordeals because they have not pass that level yet or never. It really takes a real man and woman to withstand all a marriage contains because it is intense and forthgoing. It takes an adult to be not only responsible but to be secure with themselves and whole (not fragmented) because they are merging with each other to make one mind. That is one hellava thing to do and can you imagine a childlike or adolescent like do such a task?
I hope this isn’t confusing what I said but in a nutshell you can’t be a man doing a boy’s job or vice versa.
OMG I SO COSIGN YOU NICHELLE!!!
#COSIGNNNNNNNNNNN
BEING A MAN IS BEING A ADULT, A ADULT HAS A JOB AND PROVIDES, BOTTOM LINE!
i agree with you nichelle.
people keep defining what a man is and what a woman is.
no matter the opinion, at the end of the day whether he’s a king, president, homeless, a bum or a criminal…he’s a man. and same for women.
Very fitting on you to post the The Brokewives of Atlanta pic at the top! lmao
Back on topic: Some people dont get married for honest and truth & love anymore they get married for convienance, sad to say, so when its NO longer convienant for the other party that person bails out on the relationship or marriage. Its a sad state that were living in, very few people stick bye their mate while they down and out, alot of people have come accustom to having material things become more important then having LOVE in their life!
I agree Mizz Dalla’s that’s so sad
My cousin recommended this blog and she was totally right keep up the fantastic work!
Mizzdallas, With our economy and ppl losing their jobs we can look at our circle of friends and know who will still be married. When you marry for money and the money becomes limited the materialistic spouse will bounce like the check they wrote to keep the cable on. LOL. A wife is to support her husband, be his biggest cheerleader, pat him on the back and give him a “that a boy” every now and then. When my husband’s job cut his hours 2 yrs ago, he didn’t look for me to pick up the slack, he got a second job. For some marriage is “what are you going to do for me, vs what are we going to build together”. Too many ppl walk away from a marriage to easily. If you take counseling before marriage, shouldn’t you take it before a divorce? Too may ppl give up too quickly. So what if you have lived in a 3500 sq ft home for the past 10 yrs. and you can’t imagine downsizing to a 1500 sq ft home. A marriage is about compromise and accepting that things do change that you can’t conrol.