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Feb172010
Do You Feel The Same Way I Do? Who Says I Love U 1st?
Written by Nichelle at 4:04 pm
We all get to this point in a new relationship, your feeling like every thing is going great; in your mind you tell yourself so far so good. Everything is moving at a great pace and he/she is making you feel like you’re the only thing that matters to them. The sex is explosive, you guys have great conversation and you feel as if your soul has connected with this person. During intimate love making sessions the word I love you is exchanged in the heat of the moment, but your not for sure if they really meant it. You know you’ve heard him/her tell you this many times during sex before but deep down inside your scared to say it first outside of sex.
After a great round you sit there and stare at that person, deep inside you feel as if you love them to. You want to say it back but you freeze up what if he/she didn’t mean it you tell yourself. You’re shaking and scared because this is the breaking point, will they feel I’m crazy? Do they feel the same as I do? The idea of coming clean is great but the reality is, you’ve been hurt, you don’t know what this person really feels, you don’t want to feel silly, it’s to soon. Excuse after excuse pops in your mind why you should hold back, you’re convinced it’s better if they say it to you first. But it never comes to mind, as your sitting there with all these thoughts so is your partner.
So who breaks down and says it first?
Me personally feel it’s the mans place what are your thoughts? There’s nothing like being in love by yourself not a great thing I tell ya.
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The problem is simply men don’t know who to be men and women don’t know how to be women. If they don’t know how to be the pure basics of themselves then how can they be something else?
What I mean is we as people go through stages throughout our lives mentally. We go through the infant stage, to the child stage, to the adolescent stage, to the young adult stage, to adult and etc. There are alot of people who’s growth got stunned at a stage so when physically their growing their mental didn’t catch up. As a result they act accordingly. It takes a real adult to really grasp the true concept of marriage because they have grown past thinking and acting like a buffoon and therefore acknowledges why marriage is important and cherishes it. They will only appreciate and see the beauty in marriage when they have seen marriage work and prospered in their early stages of their mental.
Alot of people have gone through tragic events in their life that have stunned their mental growth. They can’t conceptualize adult issues and ordeals because they have not pass that level yet or never. It really takes a real man and woman to withstand all a marriage contains because it is intense and forthgoing. It takes an adult to be not only responsible but to be secure with themselves and whole (not fragmented) because they are merging with each other to make one mind. That is one hellava thing to do and can you imagine a childlike or adolescent like do such a task?
I hope this isn’t confusing what I said but in a nutshell you can’t be a man doing a boy’s job or vice versa.
OMG I SO COSIGN YOU NICHELLE!!!
#COSIGNNNNNNNNNNN
BEING A MAN IS BEING A ADULT, A ADULT HAS A JOB AND PROVIDES, BOTTOM LINE!
i agree with you nichelle.
people keep defining what a man is and what a woman is.
no matter the opinion, at the end of the day whether he’s a king, president, homeless, a bum or a criminal…he’s a man. and same for women.
Very fitting on you to post the The Brokewives of Atlanta pic at the top! lmao
Back on topic: Some people dont get married for honest and truth & love anymore they get married for convienance, sad to say, so when its NO longer convienant for the other party that person bails out on the relationship or marriage. Its a sad state that were living in, very few people stick bye their mate while they down and out, alot of people have come accustom to having material things become more important then having LOVE in their life!
I agree Mizz Dalla’s that’s so sad
My cousin recommended this blog and she was totally right keep up the fantastic work!
Mizzdallas, With our economy and ppl losing their jobs we can look at our circle of friends and know who will still be married. When you marry for money and the money becomes limited the materialistic spouse will bounce like the check they wrote to keep the cable on. LOL. A wife is to support her husband, be his biggest cheerleader, pat him on the back and give him a “that a boy” every now and then. When my husband’s job cut his hours 2 yrs ago, he didn’t look for me to pick up the slack, he got a second job. For some marriage is “what are you going to do for me, vs what are we going to build together”. Too many ppl walk away from a marriage to easily. If you take counseling before marriage, shouldn’t you take it before a divorce? Too may ppl give up too quickly. So what if you have lived in a 3500 sq ft home for the past 10 yrs. and you can’t imagine downsizing to a 1500 sq ft home. A marriage is about compromise and accepting that things do change that you can’t conrol.