Toya Carter “Sleeping With A Guy In The First 8 Months Is To Soon”

I laughed my azz off at Tiny and Toya Honey interview, so Toya Carter say’s she hold the goodies hostage for at least 8 days months. Honey gets behind the rumors to uncover how the ladies deal with lockdown love, dating and relationships, and what’s in store for season 2 of “Tiny & Toya.”

As the leading ladies associated with two of hip-hop’s reigning superstars, Tiny and Toya are determined to leave a legacy beyond their celebrated bloodline. Already established as a veteran of the R&B scene, Tameka “Tiny” Cottle does much more than support fiance T.I. She’s a budding entrepreneur with a big house, a big family and even bigger dreams.

And while Antonia “Toya” Carter may not be with ex-husband Lil’ Wayne, she’s making strides with a succession plan that includes non-profit charity work with a side of new boo-lovin’. On the eve of their reality show’s second season with BET (airing April 13th), Honey gets behind the rumors to uncover how the ladies deal with lockdown love, dating and relationships, and what’s in store for season 2 of “Tiny & Toya”

On Love and Relationships…

Honey: What’s your philosophy on love and dating?
Tiny: One thing I always say for a relationship is that however you start is how you should finish. I hate for a man to start a relationship and things seem so nice and then it gets old and he stops doing all those things. If those are the things that made me fall in love with him, then he needs to do those things periodically in the relationship or the relationship will go stale. I think that really helps you feel wanted when it’s old.
Toya: Just take your time in a relationship.

How soon is too soon to get intimate with a guy?
Toya: When you first meet him like in the first 8 months. I think that’s too soon. Some of them just want to talk to you because of who you know, who you are, what you’re doing so you have to test them out. I want to know if you like me or who I am associated with. You have to feel them out.

Do you go after a guy or do you wait for him to come to you?
Tiny: No, I never go after anybody; it’s just the woman in me. I feel like a woman should be a woman. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t. I’ve just never been the one to look desperate or look thirsty you know? If a man is into you, and you’re into him, you can do little things, little signs. You look hard enough and if you don’t get any response than that’s not for you. But I’m not gonna be like, ‘Oh hey! Hi, how you doing?’ No, that wouldn’t be cool. I will be the one sitting and waiting on you.

Toya: I never really went after a guy. Not that its bad; if you like someone there’s nothing wrong with letting them know you like them. But I never really had to go at a guy or approach a guy like, ‘Oh I’m going to get you.’ Guys have just always spoken to me.

Bad guy or good guy? Who are you more attracted to and why?
Tiny: Honestly I’ve always been into the bad boy – I can’t lie. Something about the bad boy just attracts me, just gets my attention you know? There are some good guys that I can think of now that can be sexy, now that I’m older. But when I was younger, it would always be the bad boy.

Toya: I don’t like a softy softy but I don’t like a thug either. The reason why is because I don’t need any thugs around me. I have a daughter. I need someone who is well-established, not into a lot of BS, and very family-oriented. Someone that is cool and not on no dumb stuff. You can’t just bring everybody around your kids. I’m dating. I need someone I can bring home to my daughter. Not just anybody can come around her.

So you’re dating Toya? Who are you dating right now?
Toya: I am dating. I’m not going to say who I’m dating, though…

Toya, what have you’ve learned from your relationship with Lil’ Wayne?
Toya: I learned a lot. I watched Wayne go into different phases. Each phase I learned something new. As far as his love for women; he’s not really a one woman man. I had to deal with that. I am kind of happy because he made me stronger. No BS. I learned a lot from being Lil’ Wayne’s wife. As long as I’ve held grudges I’ve learned to let it go.

Lil’ Wayne is incarcerated right now. What are your thoughts on that? How are you feeling?
Toya: No one wants to see anyone in jail, especially their kids’ father and husband. Wayne and I have a great relationship. That’s just not anywhere that I want to see him. He’s never not been accessible. As long as we’ve been talking or dating I’ve never not been able to pick up the phone and call him no matter what is going on in my life. Now he’s locked up and it’s not like that anymore. As far as my daughter, her and her father have a great relationship. She talks to him every day after school. She can still talk to him but now it’s on a schedule with calls. It’s going to be a change for these 8 months.

Did you call on Tiny to help you deal with your feelings? She went through the same thing with T.I.
Toya: Tiny has been very supportive. From watching her situation with Tip and with me being there for her, she just talked to me telling me to write him, go visit him, help him get through this. That’s what they need; letters and pictures and visits to help them make the time go by faster. That makes it easier on the baby, everybody. I had my daughter write her first letter yesterday.

How is Reginae dealing with the whole situation?
Toya: She’s saddened by the whole situation but we talk to her about it. Her dad talks to her. When he was going back and forth to court, we were all there: me, his other baby mamas, and the kids. Just being there for him, supporting him. This last time we didn’t go because it was so back and forth. We’d get there and he doesn’t go to jail. So this last time I didn’t let my daughter go because she was just up and down. It was like an emotional roller coaster for her. She was like, ‘I just wish I could have seen my dad.’

Tiny, now that T.I. is out of jail, how has life changed for you?
Tiny: In the daytime he’s working a lot in the studio, and most of my time is spent staying where he is and then we come home together.

Did you guys have a homecoming celebration when he got out?
Tiny: Not yet but we are planning it.

Any plans for marriage in the future?
Tiny: Yep! We do… it’s planned.

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