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Apr62010
Can Men Be FaithFul
Written by Nichelle at 11:58 am
Okay, so I tell myself I am ready for a relationship then something happens to me or around me that changes my mind. I mean really I was on the phone last night and my friend and I were talking about men. She said “this is what they do, cheat” and I said that’s just making excuses up for them I am not with that shyt. Then she said it’s a fact! Most 98% of them are cheating and what are you gone do about it? I said move on to the next one, and then she said “you’ll be moving from men to men”. I thought about this hard last night, and she is right. The reality is; majority not all but most of the men cheat in this world. So what are we gonna do about it? Put up with it? Leave them to be with someone else who after a while will do the same. I mean what’s a girl to do!
I been through so much already, I will not put up with being cheated on, in fact if I found out it would be best I leave. Because I would be doing me afterwards and that’s the truth! I mean; I don’t understand this why do people cheat? If you are not happy then just leave. Why sit there and break someone’s heart like that, it’s such a selfish thing to do. I believe we raise up our little boys to be cheaters, we train girls to respect there bodies and keep there bodies for someone special. Yet we tell our boys to get as much azz as possible before they settle down. The problem is they don’t know when to stop.
Maybe we should start raising our boys up like we do our girls and teach them that their bodies are special and should only be given to a special lady. Maybe we need to stop telling boys “your gonna be a heartbreaker” and tell them “your gonna be a great husband” I mean really something just has to give. I don’t see how in the world you can go into something when in the back of your mind you know that it might be a strong chance that he will stray. There is no rule to cheating, I mean you can have it all at home and still go out there and cheat just cause. I mean when will it end? Why do we cause each other so much pain, nothing good comes from cheating nothing!
I’m at the point where I don’t believe any longer; I was so close to starting again now I’m back to the drawing board. Shyt just gives me a headache and pisses me off that folks take life and their spouses for granted like they do.
I don’t know anymore I am having a hard time believing in men these days when they get caught they don’t stop they try to get smarter. Shameful
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The problem is simply men don’t know who to be men and women don’t know how to be women. If they don’t know how to be the pure basics of themselves then how can they be something else?
What I mean is we as people go through stages throughout our lives mentally. We go through the infant stage, to the child stage, to the adolescent stage, to the young adult stage, to adult and etc. There are alot of people who’s growth got stunned at a stage so when physically their growing their mental didn’t catch up. As a result they act accordingly. It takes a real adult to really grasp the true concept of marriage because they have grown past thinking and acting like a buffoon and therefore acknowledges why marriage is important and cherishes it. They will only appreciate and see the beauty in marriage when they have seen marriage work and prospered in their early stages of their mental.
Alot of people have gone through tragic events in their life that have stunned their mental growth. They can’t conceptualize adult issues and ordeals because they have not pass that level yet or never. It really takes a real man and woman to withstand all a marriage contains because it is intense and forthgoing. It takes an adult to be not only responsible but to be secure with themselves and whole (not fragmented) because they are merging with each other to make one mind. That is one hellava thing to do and can you imagine a childlike or adolescent like do such a task?
I hope this isn’t confusing what I said but in a nutshell you can’t be a man doing a boy’s job or vice versa.
OMG I SO COSIGN YOU NICHELLE!!!
#COSIGNNNNNNNNNNN
BEING A MAN IS BEING A ADULT, A ADULT HAS A JOB AND PROVIDES, BOTTOM LINE!
i agree with you nichelle.
people keep defining what a man is and what a woman is.
no matter the opinion, at the end of the day whether he’s a king, president, homeless, a bum or a criminal…he’s a man. and same for women.
Very fitting on you to post the The Brokewives of Atlanta pic at the top! lmao
Back on topic: Some people dont get married for honest and truth & love anymore they get married for convienance, sad to say, so when its NO longer convienant for the other party that person bails out on the relationship or marriage. Its a sad state that were living in, very few people stick bye their mate while they down and out, alot of people have come accustom to having material things become more important then having LOVE in their life!
I agree Mizz Dalla’s that’s so sad
My cousin recommended this blog and she was totally right keep up the fantastic work!
Mizzdallas, With our economy and ppl losing their jobs we can look at our circle of friends and know who will still be married. When you marry for money and the money becomes limited the materialistic spouse will bounce like the check they wrote to keep the cable on. LOL. A wife is to support her husband, be his biggest cheerleader, pat him on the back and give him a “that a boy” every now and then. When my husband’s job cut his hours 2 yrs ago, he didn’t look for me to pick up the slack, he got a second job. For some marriage is “what are you going to do for me, vs what are we going to build together”. Too many ppl walk away from a marriage to easily. If you take counseling before marriage, shouldn’t you take it before a divorce? Too may ppl give up too quickly. So what if you have lived in a 3500 sq ft home for the past 10 yrs. and you can’t imagine downsizing to a 1500 sq ft home. A marriage is about compromise and accepting that things do change that you can’t conrol.
I am not really wonderful with English but I find this really easy to interpret.