The Makings Of A Woman

Becoming a woman isn’t easy. It’s takes more than being able to have a baby and way more than having a cooch. Being a real woman, a woman of class and character comes from the foundation you were raised with. The foundation in any family comes from our grandmothers. Our grandmothers, raised our parents, they help raised us. Our grandparents walked in the shadows of us never complaining. They stepped back and lived their whole life for their family, they dedicated their entire life to see us grow, to see us become everything they’d hoped we be. They went without for their kids, and even after there kids became grown they lived for their grandkids. Never missing a beat, there was grandma holding everything together. Never complaining, she kept on going until the end.

From a very young age, I was taught to be a lady. I was taught how a woman in supposed to carry herself.  I can never even remember hearing my grandmother utter a cuss word. So dedicated, so loyal she stood strong and fearless and fought to keep her family together. Even when she became ill I never heard my grandmother complain. She was a woman grounded deep into her faith, a praying woman who prayed for us daily. A woman who didn’t back down, a talented woman; she could make anything and I mean anything from food, to clothes down to seat covers my grandmother did it all. Her strength was iron clad; I’ve never seen her break down even when I thought she should have.

Even when she said she was tired she was still up cleaning and moving around. I still can’t understand how a woman could love so much, like she did. Give so much of her to others until she didn’t have any left for herself, yet she kept on going. My grandma always had a smile on her face, giving God praise for upbeat spirit even on her bad days. I know I wouldn’t be half the woman I am today without her guidance, knowledge and prayer.

My grandmother was always harder on us girls, growing up I never understood why she would stay on us more. Rather it was cooking, cleaning, taking care of ourselves, the way we dressed, combed our hair, talked, acted or sat. My grandmother stayed on us because she was molding us into young ladies. Now that I am a grown woman with a daughter myself I appreciate my grandmother keeping her foot in our backs. I understand her saying “you don’t sit like that”, “comb your hair” “don’t worry about what the boys do, you’re a girl” “sit steal” “you ain’t to grown for a womping” I sit back now and think of all her talks she had with us. I understand that she wasn’t being hard she was teaching us how to carry ourselves. She was instilling morals, values, self-respect, pride and dignity into us; things a young woman should have instilled within her before she heads out into this cold world.

Now that I am grown I can see that, the making of a woman starts when she is a child.  It starts after the first sentence she speaks, the first lie she tells and the first time she try’s you (and you beat that azz). Helping her grow into a lovable, respectful young woman starts with a rock solid foundation and it will always start with our grandparents.

My grandmother spent her entire life making sure that we grew into respectable young women. I am very glad that I was blessed to have a solid, strong, everlasting, supportive grandmother who stood strong to the very end. I know I can speak for all my cousin because they would agree with me; she was and she will forever be the best G Ma. In her passing I will promise to pass the torch on to my daughter as my mother did to me and keep the very foundation that my grandmother spent her whole life building stay together.

My grandmother always said; be a lady, stay classy and be about your family! Ladies the makings of a woman starts now not later let’s start raising our daughters.

R.I.P

Ruby Lodean Thomas

I will forever keep you in my heart and won’t let your legacy die you are the wind beneath our wings! You’re my hero grandma and I hope my granddaughter will say the same about me.

Much love Nichelle



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