I think so. I feel that men and women are made up differently so it is a need for each sex to have a different role in a relationship. Of course there’s the big debate about black women not knowing how to submit which maybe true. However in a relationship especially a marriage both parties have to submit in my book, the man to God and the woman to him. If a man is not leading the right way why should anyone follow him? I do believe that it was an order set and for a good reason, “Man, Woman and child” and should be followed. I think sometimes we as women just don’t like nobody telling us what to do, and it’s probably the hardest part of the submit factor. The way I see it the word Woman is a made up of two elements Wo/man, the word is very powerful and strong. Nothing and I mean nothing in this world would be able to sustain without us. In a family the woman is the backbone the one who makes things happen, the one who picks up the pieces and most of the time the one who gets mistreated. But where would the world be without us, even if you take a man and dress him up and change his sex he will still never compare to the power God gave us.
The two elements of the word in my opinion means she can stand as one, or stand-alone. We are the elements that make the world go round; we breathe life into this world. Sometimes we are forced to stand-alone and take care of everything ourselves with no help. Sometimes we make a tuff bed to lie in but we women and not girls figure it out. Sometimes we have to stand as one, be the back bone and let our husbands lead the way but whatever cards we our dealt we can deal with because we are made up to do so. On the other hand the word Man cannot be broken down, it means only one thing and it only has one way, it depends on a woman, as they are a part of our name. No matter if it’s his mother, sister, cousin, wife, lover, friend whoever she is, a man will lean on a woman to do the things he can’t.
So the point I am making here is, in a relationship the woman is the most important part of it because she can do all things. So the order that was set Man, Woman and Child was only to make a man feel like he is running it. So it’s okay to fall back and let him think he is because we all know that we really run this shyt so it’s okay to play our role and know that we are the ones that keeps the house together. Remember it’s not what you do it’s how you do, a smile in his face and an eye roll behind his back won’t hurt anybody lol.
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GTFOH!
niecy your words in your posts usually paint women as victims and now you say they are the most important ppl in a relationship? come on son…where’s the balance.
first, there are lots of religions that don’t follow “God” and have successful marriages.
second, if you believe in Christianity and in the order of things, then why would woman be more important if man comes before her?
thanx for the linkbait.
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I knew you would be first… does it.. didn’t mean
okay so lets say right your married who’s doing the most to keep the house together and lets not talk about whats supposed to be lets talk about how they are?
it takes a combined effort of the family to hold it together. those who don’t want to hold it together leave, man or woman.
I think roles are needed but can be created naturally vs forced and defined as in I do xyz and u do abc. Sometimes roles may need to be adjusted as well throughout the relationship for whatever reason. Each couple should also define their own roles cause each relationship is different as we all know. Sharing roles is also an option
I saw this episode and I like this couple! anyways Daisy I agree with you, a man should know his role as well as the woman but they are equally partners!