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Why Women Have Unrealistic Expectations
Written by Nichelle at 12:14 pm
What I’ve learned in life is women like her, whom seem to have it all together are the ones who man is cheating on them 40 going north. What I come to realize is that women who always have something to say to another woman there not really happy themselves. Now the only thing I will agree with is that you are in charge of your own happiness and you have to take charge of your life and live it how you want to. However I very much disagree about the dead beat dad’s because first off there are dead beat mom’s in the world. And also yes some people who live to be seen on Maury may have known dude was a loser. But I seen men run game smoother that Lebron James lay ups. People rarely show them true self’s in the beginning of a relationship. Beware of impostor’s because they are lurking. The only thing I can say is in 2010 if your still complaining and going over your would’a, should’a, could’a then do something about it, take charge and live the life YOU want to live. Fluck what everybody else is talking about because the one’s who seem to know it all don’t know shyt! Life is about growing and learning and we will grow everyday and learn something new everyday. Nobody has a perfect life no matter how they my seem to have there shyt together nobody has one. I will say I keep it real on my blog because my life has been far from perfect and if I can help a person see they don’t have to walk a mile in the shoe’s I trucked in I will do it by any means. But I do not know it all and will never pretend I know it all, nobodies perfect and yes I do feel you should not expect to get anything from a mate if you are not offering it back and that goes both ways.
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:clap: love it! You are so in my head today. As I scanned my facebook page I see the same people giving all this dating advice when they aint had a man in years. I see the facebook scholars offering their I’m so much better advice. Yet they stay on facebook 24/7 so the only thing they really are better at is typing, lol. Let people live their own life and if need be learn from their own experience.
I was once indirectly called a crab in a barrel because I’m not a huge Tyler Perry supporter. That comment annoys me because that means you see are putting all black people in the same bucket. We are all different. And we all deal with things in our own way. That was an unrealistic expectation that I had of people that I’ve grown to change. We are different so we will not always see things the same. (Did I go off topic lol)
@isc Are they giving advice because they were asked or just for GP?
Interesting post…I must agree neither Life or People are perfect
Nope, no one is asking them. They just say in their status something like “ladies, don’t allow a man to do blah blah blah or when a man does this, this and that you should do that, this, and this”. I always want to write take your own advice. Lol if someone ask for advice then I don’t see a problem with a person giving their opinion. However I won’t take advice from a know it all…. And I will take that advice and use it the way it fits me no matter the advice giver’s relationship status. Relationships are similar not the same.
@iscream no you didn’t that’s what I was just saying on my face book page… To many perfect patties worrying about others when they need to be focused on what’s going on under there nose. Now I agree that we must choose the path we walk because at the end of the day we all are held accountable for our actions and for the things we acpecct. I feel like how can one person pin point what you are doing wrong, in essence I feel the only thing you are doing wrong is not opening up your mouth and speaking your mind and asking your spouse what they like. Because we all are different people and don’t like the same things. I watch Khole sit back and try to be perfect for Lamar be what she think he wants but how long will that prefect patty shyt last before the real her comes out. Nobody is perfect it will never be that way, the only thing we can do is live and grow… I feel I have grown so much in a year.. When I look back on my older post when I was in my bitter stages to now it’s a big difference in what I say and how I say it. I come to realize life is what you make it… Make the best of it.. Sitting around trying to find all the answer will have you puzzled and confused because there is a right and a wrong way to do things but also there’s over 50 ways to do one thing to. So you have to keep in mind to find the way that works for you. And as long as you feel it’s right and your partner says it’s right and your not going against your bible then who says it’s wrong?
I agree every relationship is different my list of relationships dos/donts work for me and mine. Everybody can handle/deal/accept different things and as I always say if u like it I love
I just think single women always get shade thrown at them for speaking on relationships like we can’t have an opinion. I only give my .02 when asked and I’m not the type who tells her friends to leave their man not even when cheating is involved. Most of the time I try to just listen to them vent w/o even weighing in.
Back on topic I try not to have unrealist expectations but I will say it seems women either get accused of not having any standards or their standards are to high. Where is the happy medium??
@Daisy I’m not trying to say what the lady said is wrong the way she delivered it was wrong IMO. She comes off as she knows it all and she don’t know shyt.. I feel like I am a good person to talk to when you have problems because for one thing I keep it 100% most of the time. If I did some stupid shyt I will say it period I’m not ashamed to air my dirty laundry. I write from a place of help not to make a person feel little or feel less then, all I try to do is to tell you; you deserve to be happy and not let folks miss treat you. I don’t try to come off as perfect and I feel when people make these youtubes and only tell you what you are doing wrong but not keep it real and say hey I been there and done that already it makes me feel like your better than the next chick. Nobody has gotten a relationship right the 1st try even if you are still together from 16 you are still trying to find a way to keep the love alive because live ain’t as easy as she making it seems… Yeah you can do better but remember it will be days where you feel it’s not worth the fight but you gotta keep on moving because life is a struggle./.
is there one, I mean really we all want what we want is there anything wrong with that? I feel like men want what they want and they get it without the back lash… And I believe this woman is married she has a ring on and I am single and I give advice when I’m asked but I don’t make it seem like my life been perfect..
@nichelle I wasn’t talkin abt anybody or the lady in the post I was speaking in gen. Lol I am not proud of my dirt per se but I aint ashamed either it is what it is at this point.
I don’t think ppl who give advice think they are perfect I never looked at it that way *shrug* there are ppl who are know it alls (REAL)…lol
At Daisy no shade because a single woman today could very easily have been a married woman yesterday. There are just people who speak on relationships like they know it ALL and it makes me wonder if you know it all then why are you single?
Nichelle OMG someone on my page was saying something similar. Something about she is sick of women saying they deserve better black people always saying cliche. Yet I know this chick so I know the REAL DEAL and she needs to want better.
yeah women be as fake as my lace fronts that’s why when they get to talking that uptty shyt they get the #bishplease from me…
Lmao I just DIED [+o] Nichelle you are too much
lol
Well I’ve BEEN Reading your posts for quite some time and back when I first started I NEVER commented because I FELT this was strictly a female forum from the VERY TONE that you mentioned in YOUR Earlier comment **LOL**
But YOU have definitely grown in your Wisdom-n-Knowledge from dealing with your past experiences (Real…)
NOW regarding this post (I didn’t peep the video…) FEMALES can definitely be SO FAKE-n-PHONY regarding their real-life portrayals to others and the very sad thing is THEY really expect you to believe Their BULL-SHYT 100% **LMAO**
I TOTALLY Agree with your post and your comments
Great post, nice comments. I am on the defense. It’s just me, I’m a Cancer and a middle child. I am on facebook and Nichelle knows who I am. I do say “been there done that, because it’s the truth. I know I am not the women in question but do find some ppls advice warranted. Facebook is not a blog ppl. LOL. It’s for entertainment purposes only. If you can identify with anyones status durning a specific time in your life/week, good. I am on FB to see new pics of my grandbabies and pics of my fam, to reconnect w/old friends and meet new friends. PollyAnna is my first name and Taylor is my last name. LOL. I am on Facebook to wish someone a Happy Bday, or Anniversary. I lost 10 pounds since I joined Facebook less than 6 months ago. I crack up reading my own bio families status. I laughted all the way to smallville. I have to buy a new wardrobe. Ppl on facebook make me laugh, cry and curse them out. LOL. I have found that my phone time has dwindled since being on facebook.
On topic. Why women have unrealistic expectactions.
(1) They take themselves too seriously.
(2) They have a whom not to date list.
(3) They forget they are not perfect but jump through hell and high water to wait for the perfect mate.
(4) They wear so much weave, fake nails and diamonds on every finger that a real man passes her by because he thinks he can’t afford her life style.
(5)They don’t disapline their kids and tell little Man Man after his dad leaves that he is now the man of the house. Can anyone tell I did not read the post nor watch the video? LOL.
How did we get on the subject of who posts what on THEIR Facebook status? If you don’t like it keep it moving or delete.
Anywho I don’t think women have unrealistic expectations, I think men have the lazy man syndrome. They used to do more and now they don’t. They used to handle things and now they wanna share. They used to care about more important things but now it’s all about ASS! They used to not be as sensitive but since single parenting by women is on the rise these men have been on some Ralph Tresvant sensitivity ass shit! They have become more needy and whiny as ever! My granddad asked the other day “what happened to men?” They don’t wanna talk like men, look like men or hell even act like men. It almost seems like they wanna take the woman’s place while you have to uphold being the strong one since he can’t put on his big man drawls.
IMO women ALWAYS wanted the same things but it’s the MEN that have changed.
@nubian I agree with your last statement *claps*
Yeah I see somebody is still a know it all *rolleyes*
I havent been on here in awhile! well anyways great post nichelle!
on topic:
I agree with most of the comments, but the biggest issue is the men are more shallow then the woman , hence the reason why so many woman have these unrealistic views on dating and marriages, Im not placing the blame on all men or woman but there def some shallow mofo’s!
I agree mizz dalla’s and I know I miss u :}