Loving Comfortably – Fear Of Starting Over Again

Okay we all either have done it or we are currently doing it, being settled with the known. Rather it’s a dead end job, relationship, hairstyle, clothing we all sometimes just feel “whatever” . It’s easier to go with what you know than to venture out and try something new. Even if deep down inside you want to you just lock up and stay with what you know even if it’s no good for you. Over the weekend I had a talk with my little cousin about his relationship and he was talking about his girl and how he just with her because they been together for a long time. He said to me when they broke up he met a girl that he was really happy with and he dated her for a year and didn’t even have a desire to cheat on her because she made him complete. But he said he didn’t give her a 100% because he was scared of starting over. He said that although he clicked with her he was scared to let his ex all the way go and start all the way over new.

I told him sometimes you only get one real love in a lifetime that your soul connects to. Why would you let something like that go for something that you truly don’t want? He shrugs his shoulder and said because we been together all this time. But that don’t mean you’re happy and to continue to live a lie for no good reason is just a waste of time. I advised him that he better hope what he wants is still there when he wakes and realize it’s only so much pretending you can do before you overload. I remember staying for my kids and because I thought I couldn’t find anyone else. My ex had brainwashed me into believe the only person I could get was him and like a fool I believed him for many years. Then one day I woke up and it was not enough I needed more. I was still young and my kids were getting older. On top of that I had a daughter how was I to set an example if I here with her father just for her. Once I broke free of that mindset and left I see how many years I wasted settling.

Life goes on even if you don’t. You only have one life to live and sitting back letting a person who completes you pass you by for something you truly don’t want will hunt you forever. So my advice to my cousin was “Sometimes you have to step out on faith and live your life for you…”  Never settle because you deserve the best and to be happy…