Usher recently opened up about his marriage to Tameka Fosterduring an interview with Peoplemagazine, and according to the singer even though they didn’t last, he has no regrets about their getting together.

“I appreciate the relationship for what it was,” he said. “Even though it didn’t work out, I’m glad we got together. I love her as the mother of my children; we just couldn’t be married.”

In the end, the two just couldn’t agree on anything he says. From parenting style to his hectic schedule, it had become apparent that they were going in separate directions.

“We’re two different people and we have two different goals,” he explained. “It just was never going to work out 100 percent.”

The former couple has put their differences aside though for the sake of their children, he said, adding, “We had to put our issues aside and focus on raising them. There will never be another mother for my sons, and I’ll always be their father.”

Usher released his newest work, an EP titled Versus, last week and he says you can hear the transition from Raymond vs. Raymond where he was going through a lot emotionally to now where things have settled a bit.

“My music is about where I am at the time,” he said. “InRaymond vs. Raymond, I was going through a lot of things, and it came out in my music. My marriage fell apart and I was suddenly a single father. But now, with Versus, I’m singing about being a dating father.”

Okay, men lets be real you guys suck at cheating. Stop it already. I mean there hasn’t been one case of a woman busted for cheating yet. Up next on Cheaters Revealed is Actress Garcelle Beauvais-Nilon.

She chose a very public forum to accuse her husband, CAA agent Mike Nilon, of cheating. In an e-mail making the rounds at the agency with the subject line “Tiger Woods/Jesse James/Mike Nilon,” the former “NYPD Blue” star wrote to Nilon’s colleagues, “What do they have in common . . . I found out today that MY husband of almost 9 yrs has been having an affair for 5 yrs with some slut in Chicago. I am devastated!!!! And I have been duped!! Our boys don’t deserve this!” Neither Beauvais-Nilon nor Nilon responded to multiple calls and e-mails seeking comment. CAA had no comment

I got my popcorn to see who I will feature next. Stay tuned because it will be somebody.

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Okay, so I tell myself I am ready for a relationship then something happens to me or around me that changes my mind. I mean really I was on the phone last night and my friend and I were talking about men. She said “this is what they do, cheat” and I said that’s just making excuses up for them I am not with that shyt. Then she said it’s a fact! Most 98% of them are cheating and what are you gone do about it? I said move on to the next one, and then she said “you’ll be moving from men to men”. I thought about this hard last night, and she is right. The reality is; majority not all but most of the men cheat in this world. So what are we gonna do about it? Put up with it? Leave them to be with someone else who after a while will do the same. I mean what’s a girl to do!

I been through so much already, I will not put up with being cheated on, in fact if I found out it would be best I leave. Because I would be doing me afterwards and that’s the truth! I mean; I don’t understand this why do people cheat? If you are not happy then just leave. Why sit there and break someone’s heart like that, it’s such a selfish thing to do. I believe we raise up our little boys to be cheaters, we train girls to respect there bodies and keep there bodies for someone special. Yet we tell our boys to get as much azz as possible before they settle down. The problem is they don’t know when to stop.

Maybe we should start raising our boys up like we do our girls and teach them that their bodies are special and should only be given to a special lady. Maybe we need to stop telling boys “your gonna be a heartbreaker” and tell them “your gonna be a great husband” I mean really something just has to give. I don’t see how in the world you can go into something when in the back of your mind you know that it might be a strong chance that he will stray. There is no rule to cheating, I mean you can have it all at home and still go out there and cheat just cause.  I mean when will it end? Why do we cause each other so much pain, nothing good comes from cheating nothing!

I’m at the point where I don’t believe any longer; I was so close to starting again now I’m back to the drawing board. Shyt just gives me a headache and pisses me off that folks take life and their spouses for granted like they do.

I don’t know anymore I am having a hard time believing in men these days when they get caught they don’t stop they try to get smarter. Shameful

Why do people get upset when they get caught up? I mean they get loud, yell, scream and get all upset like they are not in the wrong. It’s so funny to me how when the evidence is there in there face and there’s no getting out of it. The cheater snaps and goes off like you wronged them, I mean it never fails no matter how many times I sit and watch Cheaters or Maury Lie Detector results the person who cheated gets mad and snaps out.

Why do people feel like they are the one who’s been wronged when there busted? The truth be told if they told the truth in the first place it wouldn’t have never gotten to that space.

You know he has a woman or a wife but you don’t care, you like what you see and you want it. You the baddest bish and you know you have what it takes to snatch him up. Popping your fingers to Salt and Pepper’s bish I will take your man. You go after the gold, you plot scheme and eventually concur your prey he’s yours now. Sometimes jump off’s do win and they get wifed up like Rosci who is engaged to Lisa Raye’s ex husband. Word on the block is he gave Rosci Lisa’s old ring and a new life. But everything is all good until you get him and find out for yourself he wasn’t worth the trouble after all. That he is a no good dog who is cheating around town on you, cause as the old saying goes what goes around comes around.  This is a rumor for now I will keep you updated…. Rosci took to her twitter page and said she is NOT engaged, but she never deined dating….

Now I ran across this video Of Mashonda on Lip Service,  now many people have said she is trying to use this divorce  to sell her album. But after watching this video and her even saying I’m not trying to make him look bad we went through what we went through. That shows me she is speaking only to clear up the rumors and not to put him on front street. As I said many times before that sometimes you don’t know something is up with your relationship. Men can lie about being unhappy and there going home to there wife making them think everything is cool. Sometimes the man can just be a ho and want his cake and eat it to.

I wrote about making it last forever and I thought to myself do people really want to know of there mate has cheated on them. Yeah it kills you and drives you mad, you see the phone lying around and just can’t help yourself. Your spouse starts to act funny so now you put on your private eye hat. But do you really want to know? The old saying goes, when you look for something you will find it. So what happens when you find out, 90% of the time people stay to work things out so was it worth it getting yourself upset?

I don’t know I’m kind of torn on this issue, for health reason I would want to know if my man was sleeping with another chick. After a man sleeps with the same chick a few times he starts to raw dawg her. This is how all these diseases get passed, these ninja’s be thinking these side women are sitting around waiting on them when 90% of the time when he’s not there she’s flucking somebody else. So part of me says yes I want to know if he’s creeping on the low so I can do what I have to do. But the other part say’s I rather not know what happen the less the better. However can you truly be happy with a person without finding out the truth?
 
Personally I feel like if it was a one time thing and you promised yourself you would never do it again then don’t tell me. But if you’re holding a outside relationship with another woman then yes I want to know, that brings in so much drama and stress. This other woman feels like she is your woman to after a while, you have to take care of two homes and that’s not fair to your lady or man. So I would say keep it to yourself if it was a onetime thing but a affair yes I want to know

Would you want to know if your partner cheated?
 
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I will say it until I leave this earth, women cheat way more than men. Maybe I’m over doing it but at least equallyenough or running neck to neck with them. Especially now in this day and age when women have taken on the “if you can’t beat join em” attitude. I feel like people cheat for the craziest reasons, but it’s crazy and selfish. I sit back and see a woman with a good husband that treating her like a queen and she’s cheating on him. I think women feel that they are better cheaters so they will get away with it. This is true sometimes but my gripe is, you’re married and you’re cheating with a man that is married. You get caught and now your husband leaves you and the man you’ve been giving your body to all this time is not going to loose his wife. Now what? You have nothing and you loose! I have never cheated in my relationship and don’t ever plan on being one. I would never want to hurt somebody like that, I feel if it has come to that you should just let it go.

Well Nicole Murphy thought she would creep with a marry man and get away with it, but looks like she got the short end of the stick.

During his nasty 2006 divorce trial, Strahan’s ex-wife, Jean, accused the hulking defensive lineman of using high-tech spyware to tap her phone at their New Jersey mansion. She also revealed at the trial that he’d installed a secret video system to record her sister undressing.

Nicole Murphy, a model, and Strahan have been an item since early 2007. They regularly turn up together at red carpet events, and her five kids with Eddie are said to be fond of the NFL commentator.

Murphy boasted in February 2008 that she and Strahan have a relationship based on “communication and shared interests.”

But she also had been sharing interests with Universal Records A&R exec Demetrius Spencer.

Introduced by a mutual pal, Murphy had been “hiding” her affection for Spencer from Strahan “for almost a year,” the sources said.

Using the excuse of “business trips,” a source said, Spencer and Murphy would jet off to exotic getaways in the Caribbean and Mexico.

For several months, the couple had exchanged gushing e-mails, professing their love for each other. In the notes, some of which were obtained by The Post, Murphy told Spencer she planned to come clean to Strahan about their relationship.

Murphy also began to suspect Strahan was checking up on her. There were “too many instances where he knew where she was,” said a source.

Things came to a head Feb. 20, after Spencer and Murphy took her Range Rover to a luxury dealership in Thousand Oaks, Calif.. Mechanics quickly discovered the tracking apparatus.

“This is the second tracking device he’s had put in her car,” one source said.

“This one was found behind the front dashboard.” Murphy and Spencer went to have lunch while the tracer – which one source said provided up-to-the-minute location status – was removed.

Seconds later, Strahan barged into the garage, “yelling and screaming,” a source said.

Spotting Murphy’s car with the tracking device exposed, Strahan walked over, ripped it off the dashboard and stormed out of the shop.

Spencer and Murphy subsequently called it quits, but remain friends, said one source.

In her e-mails, Murphy wrote she was reluctant to split with Strahan because he’d grown close to her kids.

Murphy’s assistant declined comment. A rep for Strahan did not return calls

It’s about sacrificing— a real man knows when not to sacrifice himself, his family and the life that he’s building. He will not take a chance on a piece of fine booty he just seen—- he’ll simply take a look and keep it moving.  A good man will also skip tricking off money at the club (or whatever he’s tricking money on) because he wants to get his wife a house. A good man will sacrifice the time he spends hanging out to come home and help his kids with their homework. He will spend time with them taking them to the park to throw a ball around and talk. I think a good man will go without to make sure his wife and kids have what they need. He’ll sacrifice his sleep to pull a double to make ends meet verses having his wife/girlfriend pulling the load of work herself.

It’s about dedication—-a good man must be dedicated to himself, his family, his kids, his spouse and to his relationship with God. Anything that comes easy will surely leave easy. In life most people have to put in hard work to receive a reward. Dedication should be one of the top five traits a man should possess. You can start anything in life but dedication makes you finish it. It’s the dedication you have that keeps you focused on what you want in life. No matter how hard the going gets you’re still hanging in there because you’ve made a promise to yourself. Ladies, having a man that is not dedicated to anything but himself is the wrong path to follow.  I don’t care how much money he has or how big his dyck is. If he is a man that thinks being dedicated is not that important, than your relationship will be doomed.

It’s about being disciplined—- I said above a good man should know how to sacrifice but let’s face the  facts. It’s hard out here for a man to stay true. So many women now-a-days don’t care or respect the values of what marriage is. A man may know how to sacrifice but he also needs to be disciplined. Sometimes we as women run our mouth a little too much to our friends, cousins, momma are whoever. We tell them all our business and than bam the scheming bitch sees her in and she takes it. That’s where the discipline comes in; a good man will be strong and not weak. Even though the flesh is weak if a man lives by this rule in life than you won’t catch him on the low with your cousin. A man that walks through life without discipline is a train wreck waiting to happen. He will fall for everything and stand for nothing! Also he needs to be disciplined in his work ethics as well and they way he lives his life.

It’s about being a LEADER—- Now as you know from reading my site or even my post on being a good wife. I am an old fashion kind of girl; I believe the man should be the head of the household. I’m not knocking the new era of women, I’m very independent, I own my on business and I do pretty well. But, I don’t need to snap my finger two times or roll my head to make my man feel like I’m running it. My problem is that men don’t know how to be leaders anymore. Some where between the 90’s and the new millennium men have forgotten what it means to be a leader. Have you ever heard the phrase lead by example? I hear it all the time. In fact it’s the way I run my business. Some men don’t know how to lead by example! They want to do what they want to do, and want us to do as they say. Wrong— so wrong—- dead wrong… It doesn’t work that way fellas! When you’re a leader you’re leading by example which you don’t not do things that you wouldn’t want your wife/girl doing! It seem so simple but when it comes to this part of a relationship some men seem to get lost about what’s leading and what’s trying to be like me. So let me break it down for the slow pokes. If you do not want your girl dyck hopping than keep it in your pants. Stay true to her, lead her in the right way. If you’re the head of the household that means your wife/girl should follow your lead. If you do not want your wife/girl hanging out all night than stay your ass home sometimes. Don’t complain about her doing things that she sees you doing! Lead her in the right way. I could go on but hopefully you men get my point. A good man knows how to lead his flock, and setting a good example is where he will not only gain control, but keep it. Being a leader and the head of the household is more than a title! It’s a responsibility to lead your family in the way they should go. So fella’s you should learn what being a leader means before trying to rule with an iron fist. If you’re doing all the right things by your family I’m pretty sure your lady wouldn’t mind following your lead.

To wrap things up, in my book it’s also about having compassion and understanding. It’s about being able to listen to her when she needs to heard. It’s about showing her that you love her. It’s about you making her feel like a woman and treating her the way you would want somebody to treat your mother, sister or daughter.

I know I didn’t speak about his wallet but that’s the last thing on my list, is his finance. As long as he can take care of himself and his bills then I’m okay with that. I don’t have this big fairy tale dream of being saved by a man and whisked off to shopping sprees and Gucci bags. I am not knocking a woman for it, if that’s what she wants but I do know you get what you sign up for. I truly believe a woman can help build a man into whatever she wants him to be, as long as he has drive, potential, determination and is willing to be great. She can take all that he is and make him all that he will be if she wants. She can motivate and push him into getting a better job, change the way he dresses. She can convince him to finish school, fix his credit, save money and became all that God wants him to be.  As long as he has dreams and goals and is willing to get more why pass up a good brother? I feel and it’s just me, women are the wind beneath a man wings; we make them fly high. We pick them up when there feeling low, we cheer lead them to victory. We push them even when they’ve given up, we convince them they can still do it. Our love is what a man needs to be great and as long as a brother possesses the qualities above I don’t care about anything that can be changed.

One thing I’ve learned, you can change the way a man dress, the way he cuts his hair, cleans up, the type of car he drives but you will NEVER be able to change his ways…. I rather have the qualities over the quantity of money but that’s just me, money comes and goes.

I don’t want to cheat but every time I ask for attention, he/she turns away from me. What am I to do for my needs? When I tell him/her I want to cuddle or be held it turns into an argument, he/she never has time for me. What am I to do it’s like she’s / he’s pushing me away……

I have talked about cheating in many forms, now I want to make this clear I think cheating is a selfish act. I think if the relationship has come to you wanting another person than you should get out. But I do feel sometimes you can be pushed into cheating we all have needs and want to be happy. You have a life you’ve built with a person and now they don’t want to touch you, love you, hold you like they use to. What do you do? You’ve cried out many times but they don’t hear you. You want them to love you like they use to when they first met you—but they refuse to. All the arguing and bickering is growing old, you need a shoulder to lean on. You’re tired of begging somebody to be into you, so now you throw your hands up and cheating seems like the only option. You tell yourself that you won’t have sex with this person but only talk to them—but you know how the rest of that story goes.

Now personally I do feel a man or woman can be pushed into cheating. I think you have to be a strong person when you’re in a relationship, you can either bare it or get out if you don’t like what’s going on. I know my own personal life sucks but I would never cheat it’s not in me. But I can see how some people seek comfort from another male/female while in a relationship. It’s not right, but I believe your hand can be forced.

Do you believe you can push a person to cheat on you?