I remember one time my ex little sister who I still consider my sister was 16 and these girls wanted to jump on her over a boy. The mother of the girl who by the way had her belly sticking out said “she just jealous because they having a baby”. WTF! Not only did she bring the girls to fight she was out there acting silly as well. Well I ain’t the one and I let it be known I will fluck up somebody daughter if they touched her. I was blown that a grown woman who would bring her knocked up daughter to fight over a pissed tail boy. We have failed our youth period! When I was growing up it wasn’t anyway I would be able to fight over a boy. We as grown women battle over men and the message pouring down to our young girls. A Brooklyn teen face was slashed over a pissed tail boy, I don’t understand it now the girls are going to go to jail and the girl face is messed up. Yet the pis tail boyis able to walk free and go stir up more trouble just foolish. Ladies we have to do better….
 

Every time a teen looks in the mirror, she will see the V-shaped scar – a permanent reminder of the violence that erupted near her grandmother’s Brooklyn home.

Shantayah Lewis, 17, sat in her room at Kings County Hospital Saturday, calmly reflecting on the Friday afternoon attack that left her with dozens of stitches in the left side of her face.

“My face is too beautiful to be fighting,” Shantayah told the Daily News. “Fighting is not the key. Violence is not the way.”

Shantayah was walking with her 15-year-old cousin, Shakeena Grant, on Franklin Ave. near Lincoln Place in Crown Heights about 3:30 p.m. They were being tailed by a girl who is dating the ex-boyfriend of Shakeena’s sister, Shamaula.

“She kept following us,” the injured teen said. “She wanted to fight.”

After a brief scuffle, the 17-year-old girl who had been following the cousins vowed to return.

About 5 p.m. the girl came back with her boyfriend, the center of the beef. She then whipped out what witnesses said was a knife and started slashing.

“She swung and started stabbing my face,” Shantayah said. “I didn’t know what to do.”

Shakeena, who was stabbed, was released from a hospital Saturday.

The two girls somehow escaped and ran to the Union St. home of Shantayah’s grandmother, Cheryl Evans. The grandmother called 911 and the two girls were taken to Kings County Hospital.

Though the wounded teens believed the boyfriend was holding them down, cops said he actually was trying to break up the attack.

Police talked to the man, who said he was trying to help, and surveillance video backs up his claim, sources said.

Shantayah said the whole thing should never have happened.

“Basically, [Shakeena] fought for her sister,” she said, referring to Shamaula, who used to date the attacker’s boyfriend. “She should not have done that. We should not have been involved.”

The young girl responsible for the attack was still at large last night and no arrests have been made.

Can somebody say Amen, I am so proud to be able to write something positive about our young black youth. Four years ago, Bryant Alexander watched his mother weep. She stared down at a muddle of D’s and F’s on his eighth-grade report card and threatened to kick him out. He had barely passed elementary school, and high school wasn’t even on his radar.

“Something just clicked,” Alexander, now 18, said. “I knew I had to do something.”

On Friday, Alexander proudly swapped his high school’s red uniform tie for a striped red and gold one — the ritual at Englewood’s Urban Prep Academy for Young Men that signifies a student has been accepted into college.

As the Roseland resident and 12 others tied their knots, Chicago’s only public all-male, all-African-American high school fulfilled its mission: 100 percent of its first senior class had been accepted to four-year colleges.

Mayor Richard Daley and city schools chief Ron Huberman surprised students at the all-school assembly Friday morning with congratulations, and school leaders announced that as a reward, prom would be free.

The achievement might not merit a visit from top brass if it happened at one of the city’s elite, selective enrollment high schools. But Urban Prep, a charter school that enrolls all comers in one of Chicago’s most beleaguered neighborhoods, faced much more difficult odds.

Only 4 percent of this year’s senior class read at grade level as freshmen, said Tim King, the school’s founder and CEO.

“There were those who told me that you can’t defy the data,” King said. “Black boys are killed. Black boys drop out of high school. Black boys go to jail. Black boys don’t go to college. Black boys don’t graduate from college.

“They were wrong,” he said.

Every day, before attending advanced placement biology classes and lectures on changing the world, students must first pass through the neighborhood, then metal detectors.

“Poverty, gangs, drugs, crime, low graduation rates, teen pregnancy — you name it, Englewood has it,” said Kenneth Hutchinson, the school’s director of college counseling, who was born and raised in Englewood.

He met the students the summer before they began their freshman year during a field trip to Northwestern University, the first time many of them had ever stepped foot on a college campus. At the time, Hutchinson was Northwestern’s assistant director of undergraduate admissions. Inspired by what he’d seen, he started working for Urban Prep two months later.

“I’m them,” he said Friday as he fought back tears. “Being accepted to college is the first step to changing their lives and their communities.”

Hutchinson plays a major role in the school, where college is omnipresent. Students are assigned college counselors from day one. To prepare students for the next level, the school offers a longer than typical day — about 170,000 minutes longer, over four years, than other city schools — and more than double the usual number of English credits, King said

Even the school’s voice-mail system has a student declaring “I am college-bound” before asking callers to dial an extension.

The rigorous academic environment and strict uniform policy of black blazers, red ties and khakis isn’t for everyone. The first senior class began with 150 students. Of those who left, many moved out of the area and some moved into neighborhoods that were too dangerous to cross to get to the school, King said. Fewer than 10 were expelled or dropped out, he said.

At last count, the 107 seniors gained acceptance to a total of 72 different colleges, including Northwestern University, Morehouse College, Howard University, Rutgers University and University of Illinois at Champaign-Urbana. Alexander was accepted to DePaul University.

While college acceptance is an enormous hurdle to jump, school leaders said they know their job isn’t done; they want to make sure the students actually attend.

To that aim, King said, staff made sure that every student has completed the dreaded Free Application for Federal Student Aid, lest the red tape deter them.

Later in the year, the school plans to hold a college signing day where every student is to sign a promise to go to college, he said. Staff will stay in touch through the summer and hopefully in the first years of school.

“We don’t want to send them off and say, ‘Call us when you’re ready to make a donation to your alma mater,’ ” King said. “If we fulfill our mission, that means they not only are accepted to college, but graduate from it.”

For now, students are enjoying the glow of reaching their immediate goal.

Normally, it takes 18-year-old Jerry Hinds two buses and 45 minutes to get home from school. On the day the University of Illinois at Champaign-Urbana was to post his admission decision online at 5 p.m., he asked a friend to drive him to his home in the Auburn Gresham neighborhood.

He went into his bedroom, told his well-wishing mother this was something he had to do alone, closed the door and logged in.

“Yes! Yes! Yes!” he remembers screaming. His mother burst in and began crying.

That night he made more than 30 phone calls, at times shouting “I got in” on his cell phone and home phone at the same time.

“We’re breaking barriers,” he said. “And that feels great.”

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The Center For Disease Control has released alarming new test results that claim 48% of Black women between ages 14 and 49 have herpes simplex virus type 2 (HSV-2), a lifelong and incurable infection that can cause recurrent and painful genital sores.

The medical group released a press release Tuesday detailing their findings.

According to the CDC herpes is still one of the most common sexually transmitted diseases in the United States.

The study shows that women and Blacks are the most commonly infected with women at 20.5% and Blacks at 39.2%, nearly three times the rate of whites at 12.3%. Black women top everyone else’s rates altogether at 48%.

Kevin Fenton, M.D., director of CDC’s National Center for HIV/AIDS, Viral Hepatitis, STD, and TB Prevention, released a statement saying that the high rate of genital herpes is likely linked to the disproportionate HIV problem in the Black community.

“We are particularly concerned about persistent high rates of herpes among African-Americans, which is likely contributing to disproportionate rates of HIV in the black community.”

The CDC also estimates that over 80 percent of those with HSV-2 are unaware of their infection.  Symptoms may be absent, mild, or mistaken for another condition. People with HSV-2 often transmit it without knowing it, they may have no visible sores or signs.

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I was searching the web and I ran across this post of Melyssa Ford talking about the Census. Melyssa has made it clear that she wants to be taken seriously now. She no longer wants to be considered a video girl but looked at as a woman who’s changed her ways. After I saw every blog that posted something about Ms Ford used this picture of her; it made me think will this lady ever be taken seriously? I mean is it fair to her that she’s not able to grow because of her career choices?

I say yes and no, I say yes because she made her bed and now she has to lie in it. In life once you make your bed you have to find a way to lay in it the best you can. Nobody forced Ms Ford to be a video vixen; in fact in her hay day where she was the top dog she loved what she did. But now when she sees she pigeon hole herself into this stereotype now she wants out. Life doesn’t work like that, no matter what you feel is right or wrong the next person will see it differently. I always say “Live for today but walk for tomorrow” yes live your life like today is your last but make sure you are walking for tomorrow. Of course tomorrow is not promised however it may come and you don’t want to do something today that you will regret tomorrow. Once you’re dead and gone your name will still live own through your legacy your building now.

On the other hand I do feel we’ve all made mistakes and should be able to grow and learn. I do feel we should let people change and be great and become who they are trying to be in life. Isn’t it just a catch twenty-two, you can’t erase your past like it never happened. I think you have to learn how to embrace your mistakes and the choices you’ve made. After the damage is done you have to deal with the after math the best you can and make the best out of the situation you’ve created for yourself. It may not be easy, it may not be fair; but it’s life. Once you move forward with better choices I think people will eventually see that and embrace the new you. But you can’t be mad about the choices you made.

Also I feel you should keep it real about how you truly feel to help someone who may not be quiet sure about making your same mistakes. When we lie about never having regrets or saying “it’s cool I don’t even care” when you know you care, when you know if you could do it all over again you will do things differently please share that.

At the Belvedere Lounge in Miami for Superbowl, Melyssa Ford discusses her role in “Good Hair,” and reveals details about her upcoming play that she’s been working on for the past year. “When I saw Jim Jones play I was really inspired by it… and so that night I had to meet the director/writer/producer of the play… and we created a theatrical experience based on my life for the last 10 years in the industry, and it’s called “For Vixens Who Have Considered Homicide When the Video Became Too Much.”

Melyssa confesses that she’ll be singing and dancing in her upcoming play and then drops details about the reality show she has with Elise Neal and Claudia Jordan. “51 Minds bought the show, so did VH1. We shot the pilot, myself Elise Neal and Claudia Jordan. I just saw a cut of the first episode and I was blown away… it wasn’t even mastered and it looked amazing.”

From private jet to the set Beyonce looked great as she always does, here is her and her hubby leaving after preforming at last night concert. The telethon, put together by George Clooney, hopes to raise millions for the earthquake survivors in Haiti. George Clooney pledged $1 million of his own money as well as Leonardo DiCaprio donations are still being accepted at https://www.hopeforhaitinow.org or by calling 1-877-99-HAITI.

Check out performances by Beyonce, Jay-z, Rihanna, Jennifer Hudson, Mary J. Blige, Alicia Keys and more below:

Beyonce preforms Halo

Alicia Keys

Jennifer Hudson

Jay-Z And Buno

Wyclef

Stevie Wonder

John Legend

Mary J Blige

The Stars join forces yesterday on the Oprah Show to preform to raise money for Haiti, as we all know a devastating earthquake has shaken Haiti leaving massive amount of people dead and homeless. Wyclef made an appearance on Oprah and talk about the devastation in Haiti. In the clip below, he cries as he recalls hearing the Haitians still singing at night despite what they were going through. Wyclef also described Haiti as “a 7th hell” and said that walking into the city is like walking into a morque. He told Oprah that the Haitian people wanted the media to “Stop with the photo ops” and he believes the people are being treated like animals.

Maxell Preforms

Rihanna Preforms

Now I’m on the fence with this, a boy confessed to his father that he touched his sister and he killed him. Now I feel that maybe the boy watched something on TV and he was mimicking it. I can’t understand how folks harm there kids so easily A Highland Park teenager was shot to death execution style after he confessed to inappropriately touching his 3-year-old half sister. Detroit police say Jamar Pinkney Sr. barged into Jamar Pinkney Jr.’s home, where he lived with his mother, and beat the boy before ordering him to strip naked. He then led the frightened 15-year-old out into a field where he shot him to death.

Lazette Cherry, Jamar’s mother said she was only trying to teach her son discipline when she called his father and told him what the boy had done. “I called and told his father this isn’t something you sweep under the rug,” Cherry said Wednesday.

Pinkney Sr., who was separated from Cherry and lived with the 3-year-old and her mother, rushed to the home with a gun.

“He started beating him right here,” Cherry said from her living room. “I said, ‘No, please stop!’ “ She said Pinkney Sr. marched the boy naked out of the house — in full view of neighbors — and ordered him on his knees.

“He got on his knees and begged, ‘No, Daddy! No!’ and he pulled the trigger,”Cherry said from her home on North Street in Highland Park. “There wasn’t nothing that my son wouldn’t do for his father. He loved his father so much.”

Jamar was shot once in the back of the head. Pinkney then calmly drove away. He was arrested 3 hours later and charged with one count of first-degree murder, three counts of felonious assault and one count of felony firearm.

Cherry said the 3-year-old’s mother took the girl to a hospital to be examined Sunday. She said Jamar told her he never raped the child and kept his clothes on.

A physical exam showed no evidence of sexual trauma.

Pinkney is being held without bond.

I remember once open a time, when the world was divided-a time where everything had a label on it. Blacks Only, Whites Only then two great men took a stand. Although I wasn’t even born yet I still feel like I was there when Martin Luther King gave his speech, “I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.” Then there was Malcolm X a fearless leader who told us “By Any Means Necessary” we will rain as a nation, two great men fighting one battle there own way.

I remember the night Obama took the seat at the white house, I cried not because he was a black man. I cried because the men and woman who died fighting our struggles didn’t die in vein. Those tears streamed for our ancestors-the men and women who fought our battle long before most of us were born. I had just recently watch Roots prior to the election and I have to say, I saw the world in a different light after I was done. Of course I heard about it and watched it as a kid. But I didn’t understand it until I saw it as a adult, Roots made me appreciate the things and freedom we have now more.  We have a right to vote, get a education and be a better person, no one can take that away from you.  So when I heard of 65 camp kids getting turn away from a swimming pool I was floored.

Club president John Duesler told Philadelphia television station WTXF that several club members complained because the children “fundamentally changed the atmosphere” at the pool, but that the complaints didn’t involve race.

Somebody please tell me how can you change a atmosphere??? I hope they get sued and go broke, I’m glad to see another camp stepping up and letting the kids swim there…2010 lets stop this…

HUNTINGDON VALLEY, Pa. — Members and officials of a private swimming pool in a Philadelphia suburb reacted to a visiting group of minority children by asking them not to return and pulling other kids out of the water, a day camp director said, and the state is investigating.

The Creative Steps camp in northeast Philadelphia had contracted for the 65 children at the day camp to go each Monday afternoon to The Valley Club in Huntingdon Valley, camp director Alethea Wright said Thursday. But shortly after they arrived June 29, she said, some black and Hispanic children reported hearing racial comments.

“A couple of the children ran down saying, ‘Miss Wright, Miss Wright, they’re up there saying, ‘What are those black kids doing here?’”

Wright said she went to talk to a group of members at the top of the hill and heard one woman say she would see to it that the group, made of up of children in kindergarten through seventh grade, did not return.

“Some of the members began pulling their children out of the pool and were standing around with their arms folded,” Wright said. “Only three members left their children in the pool with us.”

Several days later, the club refunded the camp’s $1,950 without explanation, said Wright, who added that some parents are “weighing their options” on legal action.

The Pennsylvania Human Relations Commission will immediately investigate, chairman Stephen A. Glassman said Thursday.

“Allegedly, this group was denied the use of a pool based on their race,” Glassman said. “If the allegations prove to be true, this is illegal discrimination in Pennsylvania.”

The investigation was requested by the NAACP. The state NAACP president, J. Whyatt Mondesire, who serves on the Human Relations Commission, said in the statement that the commission can hold the club accountable if it is found to have discriminated against the campers.

“The law simply does not allow discrimination based on race,” he said.

Sen. Arlen Specter, D-Pa., issued a statement calling the allegations “extremely disturbing” and said he was looking into the matter.

Club president John Duesler told Philadelphia television station WTXF that several club members complained because the children “fundamentally changed the atmosphere” at the pool, but that the complaints didn’t involve race.

The club’s telephone message system was full, and a message could not be left by The Associated Press; Duesler did not return calls to his home. The gated club appeared closed Thursday afternoon, and the guard station at the entrance was unattended. The club’s Web site also appeared to be down.

A club member told a newspaper that she understood the problem was the size of the group, not race. But Wright rejected that explanation, saying the club covers 10 acres with a “nice-sized” pool and a separate pool for younger children. The board, she said, knew that her group included 65 children, and none of them had misbehaved.

“We were not welcome, once the members saw who we were,” she said.

Wright said that the children were upset, and that she was looking for a psychologist to speak to them next week. Some have asked her whether they are “too dark” to swim in the pool, she said.

“I’m not going to validate this behavior by adults,” Wright said. “It’s unacceptable. This is preposterous, and I won’t stand for it.”

Wright said Girard College has offered to host the children for the summer.

After writing about Terricka I thought why do we as women be so hard up for a man that we make the dumbest choices. Now personally I mad a bad choice for a man, but I was sixteen and didn’t know any better so I just have to charge that one to the game. But there’s no way as a grown woman with common sense will I make the same mistake twice. It’s like we so desperate to be married or have a man in our lives that we could careless if he’s no good. I can’t even believe how many old fools I know of it seem like once you get over 25 you should start seeing the light but I know a few women in there forties that’s playing sideline roles. Its like are you serious I thought the older you get the wiser you get but II guess not.

I know that maybe that woman might have had a bad marriage and just doesn’t care about being a sideline woman. But I know I’m better than that, and I have no problems with women who don’t mind letting a man have his cake and eating it to. That’s there business but it makes me curious how woman feel like they can’t be complete without a man. Even on Ray J’s show his bust-it-baby said she needs a man to feel complete. So it’s like why is that, the only man you need to feel complete is God and he make you feel whole and never let you down.

It’s no different than Chilli kicking it with Larry Johnson knowing he’s been arrested for domestic violence at least three times I know of. What thought process is there? Like for real your just getting involved with a man who has been said to have herpes and known to beat a bish down.  Is she Desperately Seeking A Man like for real you should have kept Usher. I’m just saying I ain’t the one to be telling people what to do but hey that’s HOW I FEEL.

And not only Chilli it’s women who know that man is no good for them but gets involved with him and then when it goes bad. We then scream nigga’s ain’t shyt and blast all black men from here to hire water. But the truth of the matter is, the only person you can blame is the woman in the mirror.  Men do this as well by over looking good women for loose strippers and Pretty Women.. I guess it’s life I just wanted to write about it.

Do you think woman are Desperately Seeking A Man?