Okay, so I tell myself I am ready for a relationship then something happens to me or around me that changes my mind. I mean really I was on the phone last night and my friend and I were talking about men. She said “this is what they do, cheat” and I said that’s just making excuses up for them I am not with that shyt. Then she said it’s a fact! Most 98% of them are cheating and what are you gone do about it? I said move on to the next one, and then she said “you’ll be moving from men to men”. I thought about this hard last night, and she is right. The reality is; majority not all but most of the men cheat in this world. So what are we gonna do about it? Put up with it? Leave them to be with someone else who after a while will do the same. I mean what’s a girl to do!

I been through so much already, I will not put up with being cheated on, in fact if I found out it would be best I leave. Because I would be doing me afterwards and that’s the truth! I mean; I don’t understand this why do people cheat? If you are not happy then just leave. Why sit there and break someone’s heart like that, it’s such a selfish thing to do. I believe we raise up our little boys to be cheaters, we train girls to respect there bodies and keep there bodies for someone special. Yet we tell our boys to get as much azz as possible before they settle down. The problem is they don’t know when to stop.

Maybe we should start raising our boys up like we do our girls and teach them that their bodies are special and should only be given to a special lady. Maybe we need to stop telling boys “your gonna be a heartbreaker” and tell them “your gonna be a great husband” I mean really something just has to give. I don’t see how in the world you can go into something when in the back of your mind you know that it might be a strong chance that he will stray. There is no rule to cheating, I mean you can have it all at home and still go out there and cheat just cause.  I mean when will it end? Why do we cause each other so much pain, nothing good comes from cheating nothing!

I’m at the point where I don’t believe any longer; I was so close to starting again now I’m back to the drawing board. Shyt just gives me a headache and pisses me off that folks take life and their spouses for granted like they do.

I don’t know anymore I am having a hard time believing in men these days when they get caught they don’t stop they try to get smarter. Shameful

Nelly sat down with The Fly Guy and spoke about cheating and why he feels it’s up to the couple only. I do agree with him that all relationships run differently and no two people are alike, so how can someone tell anyone how to make a relationship. Check out the interview below,

Nelly On whether you should confess to cheating, even if you don’t get caught
Obviously no one wants to get cheated on and noone wants to hurt the person they are with. I think its one of those things where” to each its own”. No relationship is the same and I think that is what we are forgetting when we look at this. A relationship should be whatever makes those two people happy. That’s what we forget. Everyone is trying to stereotype what a relationship should be. If those two people are happy, that’s the way it should be. I hate when you look at all these books on how to make a relationship work. How the hell you are going to say how to make a relationship work when people aren’t the same? Their environment aren’t the same. They go to marriage counselors telling them how a relationship should be and his relationship ain’t even right.

Nelly On Tiger Woods In The Media
I don’t see how all these wimpy ass cats are coming out talking about how they’ve lost all this respect for Tiger…. If I was tiger i would say “I’m apologizing to my wife and my family. I’m not apologizing to nobody else out here. I don’t owe nobody else anything. This was MY wife. That’s who he owes his apology to. He owes that to his kids. It has nothing to do with golf. That has nothing to do with a public perception. That was a personal relationship. That’s what I hate. He without sin cast the first stone. That’s how I feel. Can’t no one mess with that man on the golf course and I hope he comes out and whips everyone’s ass. I’m cheering for Tiger than ever now.

Nelly On Side Pieces and Jump Offs on the come up
If Tiger would have been hanging with the brothas, he’d have been up on his game right now and we could have pulled him to the side and said “yo pimp, don’t do that. That’s not a good move right there. She’s gonna get you caught up homes”…and it would have been alright. There are opportunist everywhere and in everything that you do. It’s hard when you are the biggest at what you do. When you do that, they see dollar signs and even though they may not want to hurt you, survival is the most important top of the food chain. So when people see an opportunity to be successful, however it may come, they think about that. You don’t want people to think about being successful at your expense. Unfortunately there is alot of people getting rich off of Tiger right now (News, sports channels, magazines) and nobody is taking in consideration that his life is in shambles. Tell all these wimpy ass men to stand up and support the man. Not support what he has done. This could be you. Your business just not out there right now.

Nelly Talks Cheaters, Side Chicks & Tiger Woods from The Fly Guy on Vimeo.