If only you could agree with the picture above——

Some say that you should not regret anything in life because at some point that’s what you wanted. I do agree with that to a certain extent, but it is some choices I’ve made in life that were very bad and I wish I could do over again.

Regret is kind of hurtful; it reminds you of the bad choices you’ve made in life. You could be having a perfectly good day and something you regret pops in your mind and now you’re feeling down. It’s not easy not to have regrets because were not perfect and we all where young once.

Hell we’ve all done something really stupid in life—take for instance. I shaved off the sides of my hair for a front lace wig I bought off of e-bay—lawd-how-mercy was that stupid? Every time I think about it I regret doing it! I only wore the wig once and than I had to walk around with bald sides until my hair grew back. My right side still not back like I want it to be, talking about regrets that one of my top three.

I was sitting back thinking about my choices in life— the good ones and the really bad ones. And I thought how do you get pass the bad decisions that you’ve made?

I’m sitting there wondering is having regrets still living in the pass?

I don’t have a lot but more than one is enough to make you go crazy every time you think about it. I think it’s best to acknowledge them and understand what, why and where you went wrong so it won’t happen again. Here’s a list of my top three BIGGEST regret.

1.Getting into a relationship at eighteen, I was too young and didn’t know anything about being somebody’s woman.

2.Shaving off the sides of my hair—just plain stupid..

3.Getting my kids father name tattooed on my back—can you say dumb as hell. I advise all ladies to skip out on this dumb shyt. (I was nineteen)

What are some of your regrets, spill the beans it will make you feel better…

 I was re-reading my blog for editing mistakes and it dawned on me—I hope my message doesn’t get crossed—so it made me think of this post.

I wrote the passage above about how a woman can make a man into what she wants him to be but I wanted to clear that up.

A woman CAN NOT CHANGE a man ways, he has to want to change his ways. He will only change when he gets ready to. I don’t want people to think that I’m saying a woman can change a man doggish ways. What I was saying, is a man that has potential to be great and is dedicated to doing the right things. Than yes you can help him excel and grow into a better man.

 We have to watch who we are choosing to be with and give our all to. You can’t take an old dog and teach him new tricks. Why try?  I believed you could change a man once; foolishly I believe that the more love I poured on my kid’s father he would wake up and smell the coffee beans. I thought if I accepted his cheating ways and his abuse he would see that I was down for him. I was dead wrong. He is who he is, and no matter how much love and support I gave—I had to realize that he’s going to be just what he is.

 A man is going to be what he wants to be, no matter how good your head is. No matter how mean of a plate you can make. No matter how many times you say I love you and do as he says. If he’s a trifling nigga than that’s who he is and only he can change who he is. He will not change his ways, in fact he’ll get worse. He’ll get angry that you want him to stop doing the shyt he’s been doing since he met you. He’ll make you feel bad like your nagging him. He won’t see the big deal in what he’s doing, why change I was like this when you met me will be his attitude. A man that wants to run the streets will run them until he realizes what he had. And that’s usually when you’ve packed and your bags and got missing on his azz.

 So if you met a man and you think I’m going to change him, I’m going to make him stop chasing these women. I going to make him get a job, I’m going to make him take care of his kids. I know I can change him— please don’t waste your time. When a man is ready to be what a good man should be—than that’s when he’ll start being one. 

 I learned my lesson, when a man shows you who he is, than that’s who he is. You better take it for what it’s worth and not get lost in translation http://nwmasssmedia.com/2008/11/lost-in-translation//. So yes I think you can upgrade a man I feel like you can help him grow into what God wants him to be. But he’s got to be willing and ready to be the man God intended him to be.

                    Below is Jay-Z verse from Freeway’s single you got me.

Mami got me buyin’ property
Speedin’ too fast, high velocity
Coppin’ bracelets, baby rock piece
Vacation in Centro and Capri
And usually I be on my shit
Harlem Shakin’ these groupies off me quick
But this time it’s diff
Think the love gon’ stick
Like Velcro, let go, hell no
Ma, you know you got me

A man will only change when he’s ready—————

I wonder why people get lost in translation? I think women more than men get lost in words and ideas. I was speaking to a friend of mine who is a male. He told me “I tell women all the time I ain’t looking for a woman I just wanna cut.” He goes on to laugh about all the women that throw there self’s at him. I thought maybe he was lying about keeping it real but after having a article in the Essence magazine he put those same words in black and white and it didn’t stop his show. Women still gave him their bodies thinking there gonna whip it on him.

I get confused why women (and I am one) get lost in translation? If a man tells you he only wants to cut why waste your time and body on him? My friend says after a month or so women start to want a relationship so he has to cut them off.  Than they get mad and call him a dog or say he ain’t shi* . In my eyes he wasn’t shi* when you laid down with him! Being caught in translation can blind side you. You have to take people words for what they are. Translating them into your own ideas can be dangerous.

Here’s some examples:

A man says I just wanna cut / women translate that into he haven’t had my snapper yet I’ma put it on him and change his mind.

Men say I wanna be friends / women translate that into I’ll get him to change his mind once I put it on him.

Men say I don’t plan on marrying NEVER / Women translate that into he hasn’t met me I’ll change his mind I got that good good and I can cook.

Ladies and gentlemen lets take people words for what they are! I don’t care how good your good good is or how fye your head game can be. If a man doesn’t want a woman, wife or whatever chasing after him is not gonna change his mind or lock him down. Cooking a good plate of food and sexing him down probably wont change who he is as a person. And after three months and your feelings attach he tells you “I told you I wasn’t looking for no woman.” You feel like stabbing him with a steak knife, keying his car and catching all kind of cases. The only person you can be mad at, is yourself for getting lost in translation.

The way I see it getting lost in translation can have a sister or bother catching a case. Take people words seriously and if it’s not what your looking for than keep it moving. You CANNOT change a person they have to want to change so don’t waste your time or body on something your not looking for.

Or you”ll be blasting Jazmine Sullivan’s I bust the windows out your car.