Well it’s that time of year where we all say what we will do for the New Year. We make a list of things that seem great but yet we never even accomplish half our stated goals. Why is that? Well personally I feel its procrastination. We all know what’s good for us, what’s bad for us, what we need and what we don’t need. However we sit around and still do the opposite, no matter how much we speak and know we should be doing something else we sit there and procrastinate.

 I went to church yesterday and the pastor preached on letting go for the better. He said you cannot have that breakthrough you need while you’re holding on to wrong.  He also went on to say, we often miss our blessing because we expect everything to come easy and not want to put in the work. I agreed with the message. Year after year I sat there hanging on, settling and dealing with. I constantly was shrugging my shoulders and making due. But how long can you live with just that? I guess that is a question we have to ask ourselves individually. We all have difference tolerance levels; however what will always remain the same for all of us. You will not breakthrough until you let go and live. Let go of whatever is blocking, blinding and hindering your peace of mind and happiness.

You cannot live your life happily without having a peace of mind IMO. You can trick yourself into believing that things are good. You can plaster a fake smile for the outside folks, you can lie and fake it but nobody has to truck into your shoes but you. So go ahead and front, deal with, pretend and hang on to the wrong things all your life. But will you ever receive all that you are supposed to have?  Will you ever fully accomplish all those goals you set up in the beginning of the year? Well trust me the choice is yours and nobody can take that step for the better but you.

The hardest step for a baby is to let go of that table, couch or whatever it is that is balancing them up so they won’t fall. But one day when they’re tired of going in circles, or maybe it’s the bag of cookies that they want some of badly. They stand there and let go and they take that first step to walk, they step out on faith knowing that I might fall, I might not; but I’m going for it. It’s funny how we can learn so much from our kids. But just like that scared little baby who had to believe that they can do it, we have to do the same.  

We have to take that first baby step to better our lives or to get what we want badly, you have to let go of that couch or table that you feel is stable.  If you’re tired of going in circles, if you want to move but you’re scared you might fall, just think about how you gotta crawl before you walk and walk before you run. But you won’t get anywhere until you let go and take a step towards your future. So as the New Year rings in and the months start to roll by; don’t let the promises you’ve made to have a better life fall by the wayside. Don’t be afraid to let go and take a baby step to claim what you want and need. The bible said if you have faith as little as an mustard seed you can move a mountain. Step out on faith in 2011 and let go of whatever that is hindering you from receiving your blessing that God has in store for you. The time is now.  Let go and let God, so hard to do but it’s the only way to do it…

Happy New Year

Nichelle Walker

Boy if I was your girl – friend, I would let you touch everything that I am, Boy if I was your girlfriend (ah), I wouldn’t mind gettin crazy baby, It could be yours if I was your lady ~~ Ashanti

I think people get so caught up in what they want they really don’t realize they’re not offering much in return. These days people are all for themselves, you rarely hear a person say what they would be to someone. You only hear I want, this, this and that! I think its only fair if your asking for certain things in a person you should have something to give them in return.  When a person says what they want they usually shut up and leave it at that. Most of the time they don’t rebuttal there statement with what they would do for their spouse. It seems to me these days’ people want it all and don’t want to give or do anything to keep things going. Today I want people to think about what they have to offer a person. We always think about what we want, lets think about what we can give a man/woman and repeat it to a person who your interested in. I will start it off.

If I was your girlfriend, I would help build you up instead of tearing you down. I would be your shoulder when you need to lean on someone. I would be your better half, your friend, your helpmate, your lover, your homey, you’re everything. I can show you things outside the four corners of your hood; take you places you never thought you be. I would let you take the lead, let you protect me, let you love me, let you hold me, help me, and cherish me. I would let you take control of everything I have inside and give all of me to you. Boy I can switch ya neckties to purple labels so partner let me upgrade ya… If I was your lady baby I could drive you crazy…

It fell into my spirit to write that and I’m always hearing a person say what they want, but we also need to say what we have to offer a person. In my book it’s only fair..



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I know I left my site abandon last week, it was very hard for me to work and plan my grandmothers funeral. Trust me I tried but I couldn’t push myself, I was very close to my grandmother. I always quote something she has told me in my reality post, it’s still unbelievable that she is not here any longer. The last time that I spent time with her on my own was a couple of months ago she came over for the weekend and we hung out and watched The Wiz and my Good-times dvds. I remember she had my heat blasting and I posted a FB message about how hot she had it in my house lol, I have nothing but good memories of her that I will hold close to my heart.

I just want to thank you guys for your well wishing and blessings.  She will be truly missed, but I know my grandmother would want me to continue on my journey to greatness like she did. At the funeral the pastor said “there’s some good going to come out of this you guy just don’t see it.” I think the good was bringing my family back closer like we should be, sometimes you can get grown and busy and you miss out on the most important things in life and that’s being with your family.

Once again thank so much

Nichelle

Becoming a woman isn’t easy. It’s takes more than being able to have a baby and way more than having a cooch. Being a real woman, a woman of class and character comes from the foundation you were raised with. The foundation in any family comes from our grandmothers. Our grandmothers, raised our parents, they help raised us. Our grandparents walked in the shadows of us never complaining. They stepped back and lived their whole life for their family, they dedicated their entire life to see us grow, to see us become everything they’d hoped we be. They went without for their kids, and even after there kids became grown they lived for their grandkids. Never missing a beat, there was grandma holding everything together. Never complaining, she kept on going until the end.

From a very young age, I was taught to be a lady. I was taught how a woman in supposed to carry herself.  I can never even remember hearing my grandmother utter a cuss word. So dedicated, so loyal she stood strong and fearless and fought to keep her family together. Even when she became ill I never heard my grandmother complain. She was a woman grounded deep into her faith, a praying woman who prayed for us daily. A woman who didn’t back down, a talented woman; she could make anything and I mean anything from food, to clothes down to seat covers my grandmother did it all. Her strength was iron clad; I’ve never seen her break down even when I thought she should have.

Even when she said she was tired she was still up cleaning and moving around. I still can’t understand how a woman could love so much, like she did. Give so much of her to others until she didn’t have any left for herself, yet she kept on going. My grandma always had a smile on her face, giving God praise for upbeat spirit even on her bad days. I know I wouldn’t be half the woman I am today without her guidance, knowledge and prayer.

My grandmother was always harder on us girls, growing up I never understood why she would stay on us more. Rather it was cooking, cleaning, taking care of ourselves, the way we dressed, combed our hair, talked, acted or sat. My grandmother stayed on us because she was molding us into young ladies. Now that I am a grown woman with a daughter myself I appreciate my grandmother keeping her foot in our backs. I understand her saying “you don’t sit like that”, “comb your hair” “don’t worry about what the boys do, you’re a girl” “sit steal” “you ain’t to grown for a womping” I sit back now and think of all her talks she had with us. I understand that she wasn’t being hard she was teaching us how to carry ourselves. She was instilling morals, values, self-respect, pride and dignity into us; things a young woman should have instilled within her before she heads out into this cold world.

Now that I am grown I can see that, the making of a woman starts when she is a child.  It starts after the first sentence she speaks, the first lie she tells and the first time she try’s you (and you beat that azz). Helping her grow into a lovable, respectful young woman starts with a rock solid foundation and it will always start with our grandparents.

My grandmother spent her entire life making sure that we grew into respectable young women. I am very glad that I was blessed to have a solid, strong, everlasting, supportive grandmother who stood strong to the very end. I know I can speak for all my cousin because they would agree with me; she was and she will forever be the best G Ma. In her passing I will promise to pass the torch on to my daughter as my mother did to me and keep the very foundation that my grandmother spent her whole life building stay together.

My grandmother always said; be a lady, stay classy and be about your family! Ladies the makings of a woman starts now not later let’s start raising our daughters.

R.I.P

Ruby Lodean Thomas

I will forever keep you in my heart and won’t let your legacy die you are the wind beneath our wings! You’re my hero grandma and I hope my granddaughter will say the same about me.

Much love Nichelle



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I have a new novel out today in stores nationwide, Flexin & Sexin this is a Erotic Novel and my story is called Joy Ride, please support me and get the book here.

Yup it’s my birthday I’m going to party like it’s my birthday. Go, Go, Go, Go, Go shorty it’s your birthday…….I will be up in the club…

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Life is like a box of chocolates you never know what you are going to get. Life gets hard, love gets hard, relationships get tested and sometimes your left bruised. Sometimes you can be so bruised and beat up that you can’t see when you are being cradle and cared for. I know how it is to be bruised and hurt, I know how it is to hold on to pain and keep in a little piece of your past. You feel like you are protecting your heart, you feel like there’s nothing no one can do to help fix you.

I remember last year I was so depressed and angry with everybody including God, my faith was tested.  I couldn’t see how and why my life turned out the way it did, no matter what good came my way I didn’t see it. I was stuck in limbo, I felt myself slipping away. I didn’t care about anything; I had a book due out but I didn’t write it because I was to busy crying.  No matter how many people around me told me “let go and let God” I didn’t want to hear it. I became angry and hung up or dismissed myself because letting God was not an option for me. I grew up in the church and although I don’t attend church like I should I knew the right way. I couldn’t see why God would let me get beat and abused by a man like he did. I bottled my anger up and I still carry a lot of it with me.  I know I am a long way from a relationship with another man, but I had to get my relationship with God corrected.

I knew I had to sit down and pray and let it all go and see the good side of my life.  Yeah I was abused but I am still alive, how could I complain about something I was allowing and put it off on someone else.  I had to ask for forgiveness from God for being angry with him; I had to see that he spared my life. So many women are in the grave with no voice to use. Some women have disfigured body parts and there I was with only a few scars and I am complaining about what? I had to see how selfish I was being, there probably plenty of woman who would trade it all to be in my shoes just the way they are. Once I opened my eyes to see that I was just broken but I am fixable, and I had a lot of nerve to be ungrateful because some can’t be fixed.

I had to strip myself from all that I was and let go of what I felt, and then I realized that I already have everything that I needed.  Me myself and I!

Sometimes in relationships we have to strip ourselves down to the very beginning, back to before the hurt and the pain.  I was going to write this geared towards how a woman can be so scorn and hurt that she pushes love away from her, but men do the same. I won’t put a gender on this post sometimes we both men and women have to strip ourselves and let it all go. I see men do the same to a woman who really loves him, just as well as women. Hanging on to that access baggage in a relationship is so unhealthy. I know it’s not easy to strip yourself because in your mind you are doing what’s best to protect yourself from being hurt; but your not. You are only making a heavier load for yourself.

Everybody deserves a fair chance to love you, so if you already put up walls and stipulations on what you will and wont do. You’ve taken that person chances away because you will never let that person in.  I know it can be hard, especially when you’ve been hurt over and over again. No different then me blaming God but always remember when you point the finger one way it’s three pointing back at you. In life especially in America we have choices. Sometimes we make the wrong choices over and over again but there’s only one person to blame. It is so easy to blame someone else for what you allowed to happen. I was sitting back and playing a victim not seeing that I was a survivor, and survivors prevail.

Victims have no choices and 90% of the time they don’t make it, anytime you are given a second chance at something then the victim role is unacceptable. Survivors make a way out of no way because they don’t want to be anybodies victim.   I know it’s easier said then done; I’m open and honest with you guys because I know first hand. But the more excuse you make the more you start to believe them, take back the lead in your life. Strip yourself of those old burdens and let it all go, it’s the only way you will stop being a victim. If you keep getting into bad relationships, take time and look at yourself because maybe it’s you. Maybe you don’t know how to let a person love you are you are making it hard.

When you go shopping and you went into target and got 6 bags do you put them into the trunk or do you carry them in with you? Carrying them in would be foolish because they will wear you down, especially if you have a trunk to sit them in. Do you realize how silly you would be or look to take an extra load into another store when you don’t have to? Some people don’t have any choices.  You get what I am saying don’t give yourself extra work, put down them bags and roam freely.  If somebody is trying to love you put them old bags in the truck so you can get some new stuff, see some new things it might turn out great.

And if not, remember life is cold and unfair but one thing for sure survivors will find a way to win because loosing is not an option. Forgive yourself for all the bad things you allowed to happen and all the other stuff you had no control over thank God anyway. Because there is someone somewhere that is worst off then you so be grateful for just waking up.

Let’s strip ourselves down to before we were hurt and let it all go, and if you are not ready to stay out of the relationship.



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So we all know today Monica’s Still Standing is released I want to do what I can to help Monica be great. I really love her I remember being in high school and rocking with Monica and now that I am grown I can still rock with her she is a true singer and holds a lot of talent. Now please PLEASE following the rules. Do Not post answers in the comment section please send to giveaways@nwmasssmedia.com only. Any answer is the comment field will get disqualified. I am giving away five copies of Still Standing today; the first five people who gets the answers to the below questions right will receive a free copy of Still standing.

1. Monica had a number single off this movie soundtrack which was based on one of the biggest Basket Players ever. What was the movie  name and the song?

2. Monica was discovered by this person?

3. Monica upset her video directors in the video “Before you walk out of my life” because she did what to her hair in the middle of shooting?

4. Monica’s first number one song was off what album and what song?

5. In the video the Boy Is Mine this hunky star played her and Brandy’s love interest who was he?

Bonus Questions {if you get these correct I will send you a signed copy of my Novel Doing His Time}

6. Who came out first Brandy or Monica or Aaliyah?

7. Monica has sold how many cd’s?

8. Monica’s brother went to school with this RnB singer who is she???

I want you to lead the way and make me feel like a woman.

Someone asked me what do I want in a man, I didn’t know what to say. I have a thing about telling guys what I’m looking for because I feel they’ll be just that until they hit the panties then the real person comes out. The only thing I could think of because it’s truly what I want; was “I want a man to make me feel like a woman, his woman.” He said ha? I just laughed. The funny thing is in my last relationship I never felt like a woman, not his woman. I never felt good enough; it was always something he bought to light that I didn’t do. No matter if I just worked eight hours, picked up the kids help with homework and cooked a home cooked meal (not hamburger helper a meal). Ran him some bath water, got his towel ready, listened to him talk about nothing and fixed his plate and brought it to him. He would yell at me for whatever I forgot. “Damn yo stupid azz for the hot sauce” The shyt use to make my skin crawl because first off it’s not that serious and second off damn can you be so ungrateful?

Women are not robots, our minds are constantly moving even if we are sitting still. It’s not that I on purpose forgot something, it’s just my mind was somewhere else and didn’t think to bring it. Being with a man like that sucks, I never felt appreciated! I’m not complaining today because that was yesterday #justsaying. I was listening to my Mary J cd and I thought what is it to feel like a woman by a man, because I don’t know yet. I know its what I want the next time around. I know it is what all girls really want by their man, someone that can makes them feel special and loved. I think it’s a feeling that all women want in different ways. Some may need roses; some may need diamonds and pearls. Some may need Gucci bags and shopping sprees I mean we are all different individuals, personally from me I just want to be happy and loved. Flowers and candy are cool but having someone that says what they mean and mean what they say would make me feel like a woman….

What makes you feel like a woman?


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Tune in to Character Corner TV on Tonight, March 18th at 6:00 PM EST on www.internetfabulous.tv. This week’s guest will be up and coming Media Mogul, Nichelle Walker. Click here to view the show.

Nichelle Walker is a successful blogger, acclaimed author and owner of NWMasssMedia, which was formed in 2008 to partner with her publishing company NWHoodTales. Nichelle busted on the scene in 2007 with the smashing debut of her bestselling novel entitled, Doing His Time. She instantly received rave reviews for her novel which was compared to the classic novel, The Coldest Winter Ever by Sister Souljah.

Nichelle wants NWMasssMedia.com to be a website that dares to be different. She rarely writes about celebrity gossip. Her main focus is on writing articles about things that are on her mind and affecting our world. Her goal is to build up our community one day and one sentence at a time.

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