Not my words, I pulled this from another site. I can’t even get a damn boyfriend but this is what Bossip claims a man is looking for when he’s trying to find wifey!!!     5 Things Men Look for in a Wifey.

1. Assess her personality. This means her personal characteristics, emotions, style and expressions. Her perspective on the world around her, combined with her level of self-esteem, can speak volumes about the type of life partner and future parent she will be.

2. Know how attracted you are to her. Physical and sexual attraction can mean different things to different people. To some, romance and intimacy are key, while others prefer more active and kinky activities to really make them feel attracted to their partner. It’s important that your attraction and chemistry are mutual, and sustainable for years to come as a married couple.

3. Consider her level of intelligence. Finding a mate mutually matched near your level of intelligence is important to compatibility and having meaningful conversations as a couple. How she observes the world, either casually or aggressively, her level of education, sense of humor, skills, hobbies and conversation style are all important elements of this assessment.

4. Determine how she handles money. Money matters affect everyone, and finances are a key factor in the success of a marriage. Pay attention to spending style, lifestyle, professional ambitions and financial goals when determining your compatibility when it comes to spending and saving.

5. Know her values and compare them with yours. Spiritual values don’t necessarily mean affiliation with a religion but rather a general belief in a reason and purpose for being here. Other values to consider include those involved with family, stability, purpose, religion, optimism, honesty and integrity.

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Kissing you is all that I been thinking of… Kissing is such an intimate act; it gives you passion and can make you lust for the person you are being intimate with. Kissing your significant other while making love or in the right spot could send them into an orgasmic place instantly. There’s nothing like the perfect kiss, at the right time; in the right place.

A kiss could be filled with passion or cold as ice. I feel like you shouldn’t kiss just anybody especially if that person doesn’t mean anything to you. Firstly it’s nasty to kiss strange people in the mouth; you can catch a STD by passing saliva so I vote no. I think it should be save for someone who means the world to you. It is a down side to this great act, when you’re in a long-term relationship usually kissing passionately goes out the door. You only pass pecks and when it’s time for sex it’s so routine and plain that you just go right in. I can remember in my last relationship sitting back and thinking about the last time he had kissed me. And it had been years it kind of through me for a loop it’s like wow this man doesn’t even kiss on me anymore. I think it’s also a sign that your spouse feelings for you are not the same.  Or maybe you have to rekindle that burned out flame by starting back sharing passionate kisses with each other.

Kissing is something that you should do with your spouse often. Kiss them in all of there favorite spots; kiss them all over their body before, during and after sex. The feeling of nice tender wet lips planted all over your body makes you tremble.  Kiss them in unexpected places, like the underarm—I know your saying what? But if your spouse is fresh out the shower you can kiss them all over their body and if you kiss and lick them in that spot (underarm) I can guarantee they will love it. Another great spot is between the thighs, that’s a very sensitive spot for a man or a woman, planting gentle kisses up and down that area will give them much pleasure. Okay that’s enough with that; I have to put my alter ego back up she sneaks out sometimes –lol

So tell me do you think kissing is passionate and vital to keep love alive?



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Okay I’ll say this; beauty speaks volumes for a woman until she opens up her mouth then, she starts to look ugly. She starts to look so ugly that no matter how beautiful she is nobody notices. I know I am not the only women who wonders why women who are drop dead gorgeous can’t keep a man, the only answer I can come up with is. “If you ugly on the inside, ya ugly on the outside.” I find myself to be an attractive woman; I mean U See Me, however my looks are just a bonus to who I am as a woman. I don’t try to get by in life by my looks or my body either which I do have. When I met a guy I want him to fall for who I am as a women, not what I look like.  Truth be told as I wrote in another post I got hit by a van at a very young age and it messed up my arm, that day showed me that in a blink of a eye everything for you can change. The scar is there but it’s not a big deal for me any longer although at first I thought my life was over. I couldn’t imagine being a woman who gets by off her looks alone, if something happened to you and it disfigured you what would you have then?

With this being said, I don’t care how fine of a woman you think you are, and how big your booty is you need to have some substance in your foundation. Please don’t walk through life like your God gift because of your looks because your not. Do it because it’s what he wrote in his word. No matter what you look like are how small or big your booty is we all our God gift to men. Looks fade, substances never dies!

Now back to what I wanted to talk about, watch what you say as a woman. So you think it’s okay to fluck like a ninja? You feel you can be like a boy? You feel you want a man with money only? So you say you don’t fluck with no broke ninja’s? You say it’s okay to sleep around because the men do it?

Shut the fluck up already with the Ronny ho quotes. Listen every time you open your mouth and say some ho shyt like that; you ruin your chances of being more to a man than his fluck buddy. No man and I mean no man outside of Kanye West will be with a woman spilling out ho quotes like there cute. I mean yes, a man will sleep with you as long as you let him but getting a ring on it please. As much as I love Beyonce even she doesn’t go by half the shyt she sings about, in fact I bet she is very passive and submissive towards her husband. It’s not cute; I will say it again it’s not cute to say these things in public. Okay it’s the way you feel, I can dig that but some things are better left unsaid. You don’t have to go out saying The nigga’s do it so can I! First off two wrongs don’t make a right and secondly every time you say stuff like that you take away an option.

I laughed so hard on Sandra Rose because them prefect patties was sitting there talking about I got, this, this, and that and he has to have this, this and that. Not realizing every time you try to materialize a man, or put a list out in the open that men has written you off as nothing more than a fluck. Don’t no man want to be with an over bearing head strong, you need have this or else type of women. One of the ladies even said I get the pick of the litter, no you don’t because a man that has all his own doesn’t want to be in a relationship with somebody like that. Then you wonder why he goes to Ke Ke at the Walmart because she knows how to say all the right things out of her mouth.

I mean we are all grown, however I’m just keeping it real. Sometimes we wonder why we keep getting played over by men. The reason is not because of the man most of the time. When you met someone and guess what we all have deal breakers, you never know what that mans deal breaker is. So sitting there talking about you think women can sleep around like a man, and you only date dudes with money is not pretty. Every time I hear Lisa Raye kick into her Diamond mode and say stuff like this.

LisaRaye On People labeling her of a gold digger?The perception that they have of me — I could give less than a damn about. I say this to them. I dug for gold in high school. I’m a platinum girl now. I’m an international person. I don’t even like taking out the trash. I don’t dig for anything. I don’t have a garden either. Every relationship that you embark on is some kind of business relationship. You got to look at it that way. You got to protect yourself, not just from the man next door, or Uncle Sam, or the IRS, you got to protect yourself from anyone you’re in business with. So you better look for someone that’s going somewhere who’s trying to take you with them. Money attracts money. Power attracts power. You ain’t got to tell the white girls that. Look at Jackie Kennedy Onassis. She stepped from Kennedy to Onassis. Do you think she stepped from Kennedy to Burger King man? No.

I shake my head, I get her point and in life it’s not what you say it’s how you say it, a simple “I want a guy with as much drive and ambition as me, someone who can bring just as much to the table as I can, someone who treats me good, is into family and a man of God. I have always been a determined woman, and I just want a mate who matches my drive so we can build and grow together.” Can anyone read gold digger into that statement I just made? I mean to me it’s saying all the same things just the right way. What man in his right mind would want a women who says I don’t want no broke nigga, because even if he’s rich nothing is guaranteed in life. Money comes and goes and a man needs to feel if he fell off his woman will still be there.  And let me not get on Stacey Dash ho quotes I smashed on the first date, even if so you; do not repeat something like that. Now every time a man approaches you, you will have to wonder is it because he wants me or is it because I said I give out puzzy like government cheese?

And for the life of me, I read yesterday on another blog “we all done some type of ho shyt as women” #wheretheydothatat? I will never fess up to nothing in this life no proof no confession I ain’t Usher! I am just saying it’s not what you say it’s how you say it!

While you’re sitting there thinking it’s cute the men are laughing at you.

Okay ladies WTF! I mean when you stood in front of the pastor you took vowels for better or for worse. How dare any woman look down on her mate because he lost his job. How about help him find a new one! When my ex lost his job I did not cry about that shyt I got on the computer and sent out his resume like forty going north. I didn’t want to hear shyt about the white man or that he couldn’t find one because I found him one in three weeks tops. Yes he was grown but who gives a shyt about proving something when your in a relationship? I mean really; pride is so deadly it will kill the very best thing that you had. I took it upon myself to get him a job and sent his ass out on interviews while I worked still because the bottom line is, when your building a house it takes more than one person hammering down nails. This lady had a lot of nerve to loose respect for her husband because he got laid off, what! I wonder did she pull some strings to get him work? Is he not trying? Doesn’t he get a unemployment check? How long did he pay all the bills before he couldn’t any longer? Then we wonder why men cheat, if he is getting treated like shyt at home then he will go feel like a man elsewhere. The real is we all are going to go through a hard time in life, but a partnership takes two people not one. And the same would go if it was the other way around….and I’m no advocate of going against the bible. The Lord did say “If a man don’t work he don’t eat” but he also created a helpmate for a reason! And it wasn’t to sit around bitching all day about what she ain’t got when she can get out and help make it happen… Just my opinion.

I give this women the #bishplease side eye…. (Sidenote: mess like this burns me because it seems like these type of women always get the good men for some reason.)

Okay, so I tell myself I am ready for a relationship then something happens to me or around me that changes my mind. I mean really I was on the phone last night and my friend and I were talking about men. She said “this is what they do, cheat” and I said that’s just making excuses up for them I am not with that shyt. Then she said it’s a fact! Most 98% of them are cheating and what are you gone do about it? I said move on to the next one, and then she said “you’ll be moving from men to men”. I thought about this hard last night, and she is right. The reality is; majority not all but most of the men cheat in this world. So what are we gonna do about it? Put up with it? Leave them to be with someone else who after a while will do the same. I mean what’s a girl to do!

I been through so much already, I will not put up with being cheated on, in fact if I found out it would be best I leave. Because I would be doing me afterwards and that’s the truth! I mean; I don’t understand this why do people cheat? If you are not happy then just leave. Why sit there and break someone’s heart like that, it’s such a selfish thing to do. I believe we raise up our little boys to be cheaters, we train girls to respect there bodies and keep there bodies for someone special. Yet we tell our boys to get as much azz as possible before they settle down. The problem is they don’t know when to stop.

Maybe we should start raising our boys up like we do our girls and teach them that their bodies are special and should only be given to a special lady. Maybe we need to stop telling boys “your gonna be a heartbreaker” and tell them “your gonna be a great husband” I mean really something just has to give. I don’t see how in the world you can go into something when in the back of your mind you know that it might be a strong chance that he will stray. There is no rule to cheating, I mean you can have it all at home and still go out there and cheat just cause.  I mean when will it end? Why do we cause each other so much pain, nothing good comes from cheating nothing!

I’m at the point where I don’t believe any longer; I was so close to starting again now I’m back to the drawing board. Shyt just gives me a headache and pisses me off that folks take life and their spouses for granted like they do.

I don’t know anymore I am having a hard time believing in men these days when they get caught they don’t stop they try to get smarter. Shameful

I thought you loved me deeper than that he had enough nerve to fix his lips and say to me. 12 years in; two kids, all these bills plus the same ole shyt different just a day still going on. I was done! I was shocked he could say that to me. I mean how could he, didn’t he realize that I had forgiven him over and over and over again. I mean how many times can you say sorry for the same thing? How deep is your love for me was my responds to him? I mean it’s clear to see that he didn’t care how he treated me and sorry isn’t enough.

I stood in the mirror last April my face was bruised up so bad, I mean worse than Rihanna.  I couldn’t even cry about it because it wasn’t the first time but it sure was going to be the last. I was through and not putting up with it any longer, I didn’t care how many times he cried or said sorry. It wasn’t enough! It couldn’t change the fact that I was done! It wasn’t going to fix what he did.  Sorry doesn’t fix everything; sorry can’t erase your wrongs. Sorry can only go so far, sorry can’t change the past nor heal it. Sometimes sorry just isn’t enough.  When we walk in life you have to know that you cant get by just by saying sorry. You have to make sure that every step you take in this life you count. One wrong move could ruin everything that you ever wanted or built.

It’s not worth it, to say sorry when you can just do right in the first place. Yes nobodies perfect and we all make mistakes. But when you repeatedly do the same things over and over again it’s not a mistake. Sorry can’t keep fixing the same thing, you can’t keep cheating on your spouse and saying sorry like that will make them forgive you. Sorry is just a word and it is very meaningless without an action of change behind it.

Just because you say sorry about something doesn’t mean that person has to deal with it.  Why keep on doing things to break apart your family then when you get caught you want to cry a river. Now your sorry, but when you were doing wrong you could care less.  Action speaks louder than words in life and you rarely can take a person word as gold. Folks always say one thing and do another; it’s just the way things are.

I can’t understand why folks just can’t do right, its not worth seeing the person you love crying and hurt. I mean really after your wrong is brought to light now you feel like you want to change.  Why not do right the first time, you don’t know if sorry will be enough to keep what you have; that’s why you have to walk in the same respect as how you want your mate to treat you.

Yeah nobodies perfect like I said however, when things get beyond the level of respect you know you are wrong. You know you are wrong when you are lying, cheating and abusing someone.  If you don’t want to be crying or to loose your home, your family then do right while you have a chance.  Because nothing is promise to you and you are no better than your spouse so act like it!

It’s truly not worth it, cheating comes with hurt.   Ask yourself is it worth it before you loose out because sometimes sorry is not enough.  If it’s not worth it then don’t do it, because once it’s done you can’t take it back.

And trust me it ain’t worth loosing everything that you love over something that means nothing.



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Well, I read an interview with Luda and he skipped out on claiming his new girlfriend; some people said he was bogus others felt he just wants his business private. I don’t know the main reason, but what I do know is; when some men like Lance Gross show their love and affection for their girl (Eva) they get pinned as puzzy whipped or a sucker. I believe it’s the main reason men hold back on their feelings and act hard all the time because they don’t want to be viewed as soft. They put up fronts for there male friends as if they don’t care about their girl like that. I also believe the world has made it hard for men to be as open about there feelings as well. All the rappers and there songs about cutty buddies and on to the next one, it seems as if it’s wrong for a man to be madly in love.

Why hide someone that you’re in love with happily?

When you have rappers such as TI calling his fiancée, Tameka, a “situation” on national TV as if he didn’t kiss her and say I love you before hand. All for image are not to be viewed as soft? I mean love is love right? It should be celebrated not pushed to the back burner when you’re around certain people. I see this all the time; men hold n back there feelings for what? I mean if you digging her why not let go and let it be known that she is your girl? This is a part of making your woman feel like a woman your woman! We can sit back and make all kind of excuses for men, but the truth is they are worried about what people will say about them not wanting to run the streets. There’s nothing wrong with loving one woman and letting it be known that you’re in love, we do it all the time as women.

I know some will say there not men, just males however it’s more males then men in there world. There’s nothing wrong with making your lady feel special and I am all for keeping your business yours. However it is nothing wrong with acknowledging the person you are madly in love with and keeping it at that. Men hold back for all kinds of reason, probably the same as women, being hurt, scared of commitment, not ready or  the main (imo) reason they don’t want to be viewed as a sucker for love.

One thing for sure women are not scare to claim there spouse most times they claiming something that’s not even there’s.  So tell me why do you think men hold back their feelings?



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I want you to lead the way and make me feel like a woman.

Someone asked me what do I want in a man, I didn’t know what to say. I have a thing about telling guys what I’m looking for because I feel they’ll be just that until they hit the panties then the real person comes out. The only thing I could think of because it’s truly what I want; was “I want a man to make me feel like a woman, his woman.” He said ha? I just laughed. The funny thing is in my last relationship I never felt like a woman, not his woman. I never felt good enough; it was always something he bought to light that I didn’t do. No matter if I just worked eight hours, picked up the kids help with homework and cooked a home cooked meal (not hamburger helper a meal). Ran him some bath water, got his towel ready, listened to him talk about nothing and fixed his plate and brought it to him. He would yell at me for whatever I forgot. “Damn yo stupid azz for the hot sauce” The shyt use to make my skin crawl because first off it’s not that serious and second off damn can you be so ungrateful?

Women are not robots, our minds are constantly moving even if we are sitting still. It’s not that I on purpose forgot something, it’s just my mind was somewhere else and didn’t think to bring it. Being with a man like that sucks, I never felt appreciated! I’m not complaining today because that was yesterday #justsaying. I was listening to my Mary J cd and I thought what is it to feel like a woman by a man, because I don’t know yet. I know its what I want the next time around. I know it is what all girls really want by their man, someone that can makes them feel special and loved. I think it’s a feeling that all women want in different ways. Some may need roses; some may need diamonds and pearls. Some may need Gucci bags and shopping sprees I mean we are all different individuals, personally from me I just want to be happy and loved. Flowers and candy are cool but having someone that says what they mean and mean what they say would make me feel like a woman….

What makes you feel like a woman?


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What wasn’t going to happen to me before I went to court, is because I’m not with you or sleeping with you, “Kim’s son is not going to get more than my son because of that”. That was some b*tchassness. Because if you could come and stay here and pop in and out when you wanted to then it wouldn’t be a problem. So you are not going to put me at a disadvantage because we are really broken up and I’ve moved on. ~~ Misa Hylton-Brim

Okay I was twitter chatting today about a number of things however, this one subject I wanted to touch on. Taking back your Puzzy from your ex. We all had to do this! Once you break up with a man especially if you have kids are married that man feels he still owns you. Even if the man has new women in his life he still feels like he can control your puzzy. We have to take back our puzzy from our ex’s after were done.

Continuing to sleep with him only makes him feel your still there for him. Once you cut a man off from the sex the true him comes out. After that your every no good bish in the book and he can’t stand you. If you have kids sometimes he doesn’t want to give you money or take care of his kids. I don’t know why some men not all men do this the excuse I have gotten is. “Because she must’a been messing around on me with dude anyway.”

Hmm-well ladies once your done you have to take back your puzzy and stick to your guns. Some men might make it hard but it is what you have to do to control your own life if not he will always feel he owns your monkey.

What you think?

Isn’t it a trip how life can be a bish sometimes.  We all have some good times, some bad times or even some unsure times. Hell if we keep on living we’ll have some more of them; they’ll keep on coming.  I always say’s life is cold and it ain’t fair, sometimes it feels like it has taken a lifetime to get one message. Once you get it you feel silly because it’s a message you should have received a long time ago.

We’ve all caught ourselves saying “man if I would have knew this back then I could have.” It doesn’t matter what caused you to say it, thinking about money, relationships, or bad credit; it was something you did wrong that crossed your mind.

I feel there’s three major parts of life; learning, growing and receiving, seems easy ha? Well it should be, but somehow it’s become the hardest part of our lives to get right. Some lessons take forever to learn, and even when we learn them, we can still find ourselves right back into the same mess again. Growing comes with knowledge, I truly feel if you haven’t been through anything in life there’s no room to grow into something better.  Receiving is very complicated; it goes hand in hand with listening, understanding and being willing to accept the correct answers.

We tell ourselves we want to grow and learn but yet sometimes we don’t want to receive from certain people.  Sometimes we don’t want to receive the truth, we mind block what’s going on in our lives so we can have what we want. We hear what we want and do the total opposite of what we need to be doing, all because we don’t want to receive a message.

Something so small as receiving can turn into something so big and all it takes is opening up your ears and heart. It’s hard to hear he truth about yourself, it stings like a pack of bees. You go through all kind of motions to prove the other person wrong because you don’t want to face the truth.  I’ve done it many times over, I can remember being in denial because that’s what it is denial; not hate. We misuse the word hater so much it’s ridiculous.

It’s not hate when someone is telling you what’s best for you. I know some people don’t have the best attentions in the world. But my grandmother always told me “If everybody is saying the same thing about you, maybe its you.” We can blindside ourselves and say “they hating” but it won’t change a thing about you.  The truth is the truth no matter if you’re willing to receive it; it’s still the truth.

I spoke to my friend earlier today and somehow we got on a conversation about my ex and me. I was speaking about my past and how I let him put my self-esteem down so low. I had to take a breath because I couldn’t believe how I let him make me believe I wasn’t good enough. How I wasn’t pretty enough and nobody else would want me. I remember the days he would walk out on me and I would beg him to stay with me.  I was just being so young and foolish, but that was then and this is me now. I am a totally different woman now I’m fully-grown and aware of my women hood. The sad part is I knew better, I was raised better but I didn’t want to receive the message my mother was giving me or anybody else.  Being grown, hard headed and not facing the truth kept me entangled into a web a mess for twelve long years. And when it was all said and done he’s the one who can’t live without me POW. In life your going to go through changes it’s so much that you don’t know and probably never will. As long as you can look back and say, “I don’t know who that person was” you’re on the right track.

Everyday we should strive to grow into a better person, once the light shined down on me; I realized that we make our own lives harder by putting up fights with the wrong people. Without learning in life, you can’t grow into a better, smarter and wiser you.  Embracing that is the easy part, however the most important thing to understand is in life you WILL not be able to grow until your ready to receive the truth. Please learn how to receive; even from the people you don’t want telling you anything. I have embrace my up’s and down’s and I do feel a lifetime has pass me by there’s nothing I can do about it now.  Life’s cold and it ain’t fair I know life’s been an awful bish to me at times.  However I still must move on, I still gotta keep on pushing forward. The way I see it; its just another lesson learned.